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Confessions: My pregnant wife refuses to do any housework because she says it'll hurt the baby

 It's been a fairly easy pregnancy but she refuses to do any house chores (Photo: Shutterstock)

Pregnancy can be both mentally and physically tiring, so having a partner there to help out can make things a little easier.

But sometimes it can be taken too far, as one husband found out.

The anonymous man said that his wife is 24 weeks pregnant, and so far "it has been a fairly easy pregnancy".

He explained: "I have done my best to be a good husband. I work full-time, started doing all the chores (cooking/cleaning/pet care), and of course, try my best to accommodate her cravings.

"She has been taking it easy and spends most of her day relaxing. She says she's 'never felt better'."

But tackling so much has left him feeling "burnt out".

On two occasions he asked her whether she'd be able to take on just a small portion of the chores, but she refused both times.

"She says that it would stress her out and possibly harm the baby, which scared me (I don’t want anything to happen to our baby), so of course, I didn’t push it," he said, despite the fact he's been catering to her every need for months.

 He has been doing all the chores (Photo: Shutterstock)

One night his wife woke him in the early hours of the morning to ask him to go and buy her some snacks.

After a particularly tough week at work, he said no - but she wasn't having any of it as she continued to "beg" for half an hour.

"Then she started crying and telling me what a s*** husband I was being. She also said she's scared to see me as a father if this is how selfish I am'," which led him to lose his temper.

He said: "I told her I’ve been taking care of 100 per cent of the responsibilities for the past six months.

"She’s been sitting on her phone every single day and hasn’t had to lift a finger. Then I said I was done doing 100 per cent of the chores and we need a more even split because I was losing hair from stress.

"This caused her to cry more and she kicked me out to the couch."

He claims he has since been called names by her family.

"My [mother-in-law] has texted me to call me an a******," he said.

"They both said the stress I am putting on my wife will hurt the baby so now I feel super guilty."

 He wondered if he was being unfair for asking her to help out (Photo: Shutterstock)

He took to Reddit to ask users whether he was being out of order, but the majority of people said it was his wife who wasn't being fair.

One person said: "Most women literally hold on to their full-time jobs six months into their pregnancy and beyond.

"Why is she not even capable of doing light housework?"

Another added: "Unless it is high risk, your wife can work, do chores, ALL while carrying a child. You are being royally manipulated and taken advantage of... I am sorry."

"She's pregnant, not on her deathbed," commented a third.

And one mum penned: "I've been pregnant four times, all high risk, and not once has my doctor told me not to do regular household chores. If anything, he encouraged it because it kept me active and reduced the amount of issues I could have.

"Although there are certain things she should not be doing (anything involving inhaling chemicals, like bleach or bathroom cleaner), changing a litter box, and anything physically strenuous (shovelling snow, carrying a large vacuum up the steps), and any general health concerns that she shouldn't have been doing before getting pregnant if any, should be avoided.

"UNLESS she has a doctor/midwife tell her explicitly not to do anything then light chores can still be done."

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