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Don’t cheapen yourself by begging for money from your guy!

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Ladies, how often do you ask your boyfriend for money? Is there a way to ask your boyfriend for money without coming across as a seasoned gold-digger? How soon after you start dating a guy is it acceptable to start asking for money?

These are some of the questions I have been asking myself this week.

The topic of money in a relationship has always been a touchy one.

While some women have no qualms about seeking financial help from their boyfriends from time to time, I find it a bit uncouth to ask for money from a man you are in a relationship with.

I do expect gifts and treats from time to time, but asking for cash is a line that I don’t cross. Maybe it is because I make my own money and I can take care of my bills. I know some women who are unemployed and have to rely on their boyfriends for everything, even the most basic of needs.

If you have just started dating, refrain from asking him for money, unless you are in a serious fix and he is the only one you can ask for financial assistance. Even then, make it clear that you intend to pay him back.

If he does lend you the money, make sure you pay it back unless he tells you to keep it. Never ask him to pay for your hair, nails or anything like that unless it is a treat for a special occasion.

You can’t meet a man for the first or second time and start asking him for money. He will catch on that you are only after his money and will cut you loose.

There are also other women who live on their own and get by just fine, but as soon as they get a boyfriend, they expect the guy to start footing their bills like rent and other expenses.

That is absolutely ridiculous.

If you have a job, try and make do with what you get, no matter how wealthy the guy you are dating is. He will respect you in the long run and once he commits himself to you, you will get to enjoy a luxurious life with him without even having to ask for it.

Unlike some ladies out there, I don’t believe that men solely exist in this earth to support women. A man is not your ATM or safety net. Try becoming independent. You will feel a lot happier and fulfilled in a relationship if you know that you have got your own back.

Ladies, if you do ask him for money and he politely declines, you have no right to throw a tantrum or hold it against him.

No man owes you anything. It is his money, not your money. Instead of asking him for money for petty things, work for a long-term relationship with him such as marriage because only then will his money be regarded as yours as well.

In the meantime, be as independent as you can.

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