Confessions: ‘My baby’s name has sparked a furious argument with my in-laws’
By MIRROR | 2 months ago
A new mum has said her husband's family feel "hurt and disrespected" by the name the couple have chosen for their baby daughter.
She explains that early in the pregnancy, she and husband chose the name they were going to use but kept it quiet from family and friends until their child was born recently.
They chose their little girl's first name in honour of her husband's mother, who passed away when he was just eight-years-old, but the mum says the decision has "caused a stir with my husband's family".
She says that her husband's brother also chose to name his child in memory of their mother, but the pair have had a stepmum since they were kids who is upset they "never bonded with her or considered her their mum".
The building tension came to a head recently when her in-laws visited them and the baby, and they overheard her tell a neighbour the little girl had been named after her husband's mum.
She said her husband's dad and stepmum "turned on me for saying that", arguing the couple hadn't acknowledged that her husband "had another mum" and it was making her "feel even more overlooked".
"My husband told them he only has one mother and that they need to get over it and they should apologise to me or leave," she wrote on Reddit.
"It kind of blew up from there. My husband's step-siblings are all upset too that I would say that in front of stepmum."
She says her husband and his brother were also left furious that their stepmum had been referred to as their 'mum' or 'other mum', as she knows the pair both consider their late mum to be their only mum.
The situation sparked a fierce argument within the family, and the mum asked for advice as to whether they should have handled the situation differently.
One snapped back: "The level of self-absorption required to complain that a child was named after its late grandmother rather than you is staggering. You’re absolutely not the problem."
A second wrote: "They do have one bio mom and they want to honour her memory. It’s not a complete rejection of their step mom but acknowledgement of someone who was important and has passed on."
And another added: "You've kept a name in the family to honour a lost loved one. Step mum has her own kids. They can name their children after their mother and get over it."
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