Dating pathological liars and sense of self

Pathological liars are people who are compulsively dishonest. They tell stories that don’t add up, lies that are obviously easy to spot and they’re also charming, which can be quite irresistible.

Considering how warped their world is, it goes without saying that dating a pathological liar is never ever a good idea. A healthy relationship thrives on honesty because that’s what solidifies the foundation. A lack thereof is the door way to many relationship problems.

Should you find yourself in a similar position, it’s never too late to walk away and start a fresh for the sake of yourself.

Here’s how a pathological liar can affect your sense of self if you’re not careful

Lack of trust can actually break a relationship. Your partner will constantly manipulate you so you’ll barely know whether they are being honest or dishonest with you. You won’t believe them when they want to genuinely do something nice for you and you’ll always question every move they make. This is because they have lied to you before and you have been disappointed and therefore don’t know what to expect anymore.

Pathological liars can tell a different story depending on the day. They might even choose to involve some of your friends and family members and this can drive those closest to you away if your partner manipulates you into believing them. This forms an unhealthy codependency because you’re isolated from your friends and family.

Also, if at any point you break up, the baggage of trust issues is carried on to any future romantic relationship you might have. This is a deep problem because you might self-sabotage a healthy relationship in future.

Mental health is at the core of healthy living. It’s what gives you your sense of self-worth and self-confidence which is essential for a happy life. Dealing with lies and the constant manipulation attracts stress, anxiety and even depression.

You and your partner are also more likely to have fights because of something they made up. It’s not a good idea to be with a pathological liar because they’ll make you feel crazy all the time. They often result to using charming words or even blame you for something they know they’re lying about.

If someone calls you crazy all the time, you might actually start believing it. It’s better to avoid situations that put your psychological and emotional well-being at risk. Walk away while you still can.

This is a hard truth to face when dating a pathological liar. There is usually that hope that you will change them but this won’t happen unless they decide to change themselves. They have a hard time admitting to their actions and often don’t even believe they are wrong in the first place. In a way, they assume the lies are justified if they had good intentions behind them like preventing an argument or when they don’t want to hurt or disappoint you.

Many realize that their partner is a compulsive liar when they’re in too deep into the relationship. At this point, you’ve already formed emotional ties with that person, making it hard to just end the relationship. Still, the lies make you question whether they genuinely love you or whether that’s just another lie they’re trying to keep up with. The boundary between the truth and lies is blurred so you start wondering if the whole relationship is fake.

It’s hard to date or be married to a pathological liar. If you want to focus on yourself and find a better partner, gather the courage to leave. But if you choose to stay in the relationship, let your partner know how you feel and maybe get some therapy to find out why they lie so much, so that you can deal with the resentment and move on.