While there may be occasions where a stiff upper lip is called for, feeling pressure to always be happy or show a happy front no matter what, is damaging in the long run. You may have to bear it, depending on the circumstances, but you should not have to grin through it.
It is important to be able to express emotions in a healthy, balanced manner. Emotions like grief, anger and sadness can make people feel uncomfortable but bottling them in only delays healing.
Instead of suppressing negative emptions, normalise them. This can be done by vocalising your feelings, reassuring others that their emotional responses are valid, discussing emotional triggers and avoiding knee-jerk responses to someone’s emotions.
It is important to teach children how to express emotions from an early age, so they carry this skill forward as healthy, balanced adults.
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