She tricked me into marrying her, now she doesn’t even cook for me

She pushed me to marry her, now doesn’t cook for me

Hi, I was seeing two ladies both of whom have kids that aren’t mine. Sometime back, one of the ladies pushed me into marrying her even though I wasn’t really in love with her. Just two months into the marriage, she started being disrespectful by refusing to cook for me among other incidents. I feel that I made a mistake and I am wondering if I should leave my wife for the other woman who I know loves me and will be a good wife. Please advise me. Ken, Nairobi

Lucky you, some married men out here are not only denied food. The other special food is also rationed or unavailable kabisa! But wait, I am missing a lot of context here. For instance, how did the other woman react when you chose your wife over her? Has she told you she is willing to give things a try with you now? If she is, go for it. Follow your heart.

My girlfriend is confused, torn between another man and I

I started dating my girlfriend a year ago and things haven’t been smooth for us but we always fight for our relationship. Recently, I was heartbroken to find out that she has been seeing another guy secretly for the last two months. I confronted her about it and told her it would either be him or me. She says she is unsure of who she wants to be with and wants time to figure it out. What do I do? Max, Nyeri

Why are you even giving her an option to choose? You are such a nice person. She has been carrying on another relationship behind your back! She doesn’t care about you at all. Dump her and move on with your life.

I have trust issues, scared of being cheated on, help

I am a 24-year-old lady and I have been cheated on in the past and as a result, I have major trust issues. I have been seeing my current boyfriend for a year and I found out that he met up with his ex a few weeks ago and didn’t tell me. He apologised and swore nothing happened but I can’t get over it. I don’t understand why he would do something like that when he knows how I feel about being lied to. Am I overreacting? Lucy, Meru Your boyfriend shouldn’t have been seeing his ex behind your back. However, do not punish your current boyfriend just because some ex boyfriends cheated on you. If you have decided to forgive him, put all this behind you and move on.

Embarrassed of my new catch who is smart, but not pretty

I am 23-year-old guy in college. A month ago I met a great girl. She is smart, funny and has a great personality and I genuinely like her. The problem is that she is not very pretty. I have always dated pretty girls and I am worried about what my friends will say about her so I have been keeping the relationship a secret. She has been asking me to introduce her to my friends and I have been putting it off. What do I do? Mike, Kisumu So you are dating her on behalf of your friends? You don’t care about this girl at all. If you did, you wouldn’t be keeping her a secret and you wouldn’t think that way about her. Let her go be with someone who truly values her.