Here is to all daddies out there!

I’m not always sure I know what to do with the different imported holidays that have today become fixtures on our calendar.

Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and so on have gained such prominence you’d almost think they were national public holidays! Even Chinese New Year and Halloween seem to have gained their small (and markedly elite) groups of followers here! All these are clearly indicators of the globalised world we live in. They are also great opportunities for retailers to create demand for goods we don’t really need!

All that said though, I do believe if any of these holidays would be a good candidate for global public holidays, Father’s Day would be it. Celebrated widely on the third Sunday of June, it was first declared a public holiday in the US by President Woodrow Wilson in 1972, 58 years after Mother’s Day became a public holiday. Clearly, fathers don’t have the same sentimental appeal that mothers do!

In today’s world, men are often seen as the villain – and it is certainly the case that men are often the cause of great pain in the lives of their spouses and children. When I visit our various prisons, I find that most inmates had a poor or no relationship with a father figure. Abusive, passive or absent fathers are the cause of much societal destruction in our nation.

Which is all the more reason we must celebrate those men who are doing their best to be good husbands and fathers! It’s much more effective to applaud good deeds and examples than to bile about or simply ignore the bad ones. Because it’s true that you get what you celebrate. Even those who haven’t done as well ought to be celebrated for whatever little they did right!

It’s not easy to be a father in today’s world. Most men have few examples of what good fatherhood should look like. One of my friends, pastor Simon Mbevi, runs a class called ‘Man Enough’ that teaches men their role in family and society. I’m always amazed at how valuable the experience is to the many who take it.

And so here’s to all those fathers out there who are working hard to provide for their children. Here’s to all the baby daddies who at least make an effort to visit their children regularly. Here’s to the single fathers who have chosen to faithfully bring up their children (I know quite a few remarkable ones!) Here’s to those men who are seeking to develop a relationship with their kids even though they didn’t have one with their own fathers. Here’s to those men who take their kids to church because they want them to grow up with good morals. Here’s to those who are passionate to see their kids have what they didn’t when they were growing up.

To all those fathers in our nation, I say to you, Happy Father’s Day! Photo: inhabitat.com