The majority of us
have been brought in a setting where rules are rules, and your parents' word is
final—supper by 7 p.m., bedtime by 9.30 sort of thing. We didn't get to
negotiate our way through issues or have our side of the story heard. Mischief
was met by BMW (I wish it were the car, instead of Black Mama Whooping), or a
milder version of discipline was through an intervention. This is where unruly
behavior was sorted out by spiritual advisors or senior members of the extended
<p><b>However, at some point, we've thought there were few situations our parents could've (or should have) handled just a little bit better. </b></p><p><b>We would try to justify their actions on busy work schedules, large families to keep up with or simply not in the right frame of mind when whatever happened, happened. </b></p>
As adults now, we
are probably grateful for the parental corporal punishment we received.
However, at some point, we've thought there were few situations our parents
could've (or should have) handled just a little bit better. We would try to
justify their actions on busy work schedules, large families to keep up with or
simply not in the right frame of mind when whatever happened, happened. Perhaps
I wasn't a parent to see it through their eyes. A huge percentage of failed
adult parent-child relationships stem from unresolved childhood experiences,
whether from the parent's or the child's perspective.
unfortunately been programmed as a society that children have nothing to bring
to the table (not in the financial sense). On the contrary, I find a
youngster's view of the world refreshing. Imaginative in every sense of the
word, albeit the occasional embellishing, but with a raw honesty that is seldom
Children at a tender
age are aware of their capabilities or lack thereof. We attended school and
established at some point, we sucked at math and thrived in the arts instead.
Suggestions to get a tutor or coach were sometimes turned down. The bullying by
peers could easily be fixed if we transferred schools. Abuse from caregivers
fell on deaf ears if only parents took the time to listen.
Children grow to
become a recluse, wild or other traits different from their usual personality
in attempts to substitute for what they felt emotionally or psychologically
lacked growing up. Consequently, misunderstandings and deep-rooted resentment
fuel the relationship because the parent does not understand the child or vice
Childhood comes and goes in the blink of an eye but a crucial stage of our lives. There's all the time in the world to be adults. Parents pay attention to your offspring while they are young. Give them the love and care that you hope to receive someday in old age. They are the now and the future.