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One of the milestones of a long-term relationship is introducing your significant other to their future in-laws. Taking this step gets even harder if you’re planning to spend the rest of your life with this person and all you long for is the approval of your parents.
When you see that scowl of disapproval on your father’s face or your mother shaking her head worried, you know that your relationship and your partner are probably doomed. Depending on the type of relationship you have with your parents, you may or may not get a reason as to why they have written your partner off. This disapproval is a bitter pill to swallow and it might even cause problems between you and your partner.
Below are some reasons why your parents don’t like your partner and what you can do to right the situation.
1. Expectations
Some parents will consider your partner unsuitable based on what they had in mind for their child. It could be profession, family background or even religious affiliation. If any of these go against what your parents wanted for you, they might end up hating your partner.
While you might want to get your parents’ approval, if there isn’t anything inherently wrong with her you are allowed to stand your ground. If they are good, your parents are bound to come round.
2. What you’ve told them about him
It could be what you’ve said or what others have said to them about your partner but this will play a big role in what opinion they form about him.
While it’s important to tell your parents that you’re dating someone, avoid discussing intimate details about him or the ins and outs of your relationship with them. This will only serve to fuel the fire of dislike they have for him. Remember your parents want the best for you and they might not be willing to overlook your partner’s flaws.
3. How he treats you
First things first, you shouldn’t date someone who treats you badly. Should your parents get even a whiff of this, they will dislike your partner. If this happens, you have even more reason to let go of that relationship.
4. His mannerisms
You can tell a lot about a person from the way they behave not only towards you but also towards other people. From the way they speak to strangers, how they treat their family and yours, to how they carry themselves, their mannerisms will determine if your parents like him.
You will know if your partners’ manners will annoy your parents long before you take them home. If you suspect that his behaviour will be a problem, there’s probably no reason for you to stay together. If his bad habits can’t be corrected, run and don’t look back.
Have your parents hated your partner? What reasons did they have?
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