x Eve Woman Wellness Readers Lounge Leisure and Travel My Man Bridal Health Relationships Parenting About Us Digital News Videos Opinions Cartoons Education E-Paper Lifestyle & Entertainment Nairobian Entertainment Eve Woman Travelog TV Stations KTN Home KTN News BTV KTN Farmers TV Radio Stations Radio Maisha Spice FM Vybez Radio Enterprise BULK SMS E-Learning Digger Classified The Standard Group Corporate Contact Us Rate Card Vacancies DCX O.M Portal Corporate Email RMS
Login ×

How to spot and deal with a jealous friend

Girl Talk - By Lolita Bunde | July 3rd 2020 at 01:55:00 GMT +0300
It is very common to have a friend who is jealous of you (Shutterstock)

Do you sometimes feel like the closest person to you is also your worst enemy? It is very common to have a friend who is jealous of you. Nonetheless, jealousy can sometimes be good for others to improve themselves.

However, when you have a friend who is always criticizing your moves and predicting doom to your future, it could be time to take a step back and evaluate your friendship.

Here are some signs of a jealous friend:

  • Envious of everything

If your friend is always wishing they had your life and everything you own, that is a red flag. We are all different, if you two were meant to be the same then you would have been born twins.

If she also owns exactly the same things you have, then she is totally jealous of you.

When they cannot acquire something you own, they will either manipulate you to give or sell it to them.

  • You are competition

If you constantly feel like your friend is competing with you. Then she is not a true friend. Your relationship with her is all a big race.

  2. 1. How to deal with envy and jealousy in your friendships
  3. 2. Telltale signs that your friends are trustworthy
  4. 3. How to know if your group of friends is toxic
  5. 4. Girl code: Why I won’t be marrying my best friend

The easiest way to know if you are in a competition is when they constantly ask for your opinion in their life and do the opposite every time.

In most cases, they don’t need your help, they just want to gauge if your opinion is better than theirs.

  • They are negative energy

Are you scared of telling your friend about something new you are venturing into? Or are you scared of telling them of an achievement? If yes, that’s a serious killjoy to your life.

Your friend is the first person you should run to with your problems and achievements. When you hesitate to call your friend over things happening in your life, you are scared of their reaction. Red flag.

Your friend is the first person you should run to (Shutterstock)

How to deal with this situation:

i. Evaluate your friendship: Jealousy is a feeling that can be brought about by many things. Your friend could be stressed by work, drowning into depression or she is simply a bad person.

Try to figure out exactly when you started feeling she was toxic. If she has been jealous from the beginning of your friendship. It is time to take charge.

ii. Talk to her: The easiest way to sort out your issue is by talking it out with your friend. If she is a true friend, she shouldn’t have a problem understanding where you come from with the issue.

However, if she accuses you of being the bad friend and throws a tantrum. I think you know your answer.

iii. Limit what you share: Ladies are wired to blab about their lives’ achievements and failures to friends. However sometimes it is good to keep some issues to yourself in case you feel your friend won’t understand the basis of your decisions.

Maybe it is your oversharing that is overwhelming your friend and she may not necessarily be a bad person.

iv. Widen your circle: Sometimes the easiest way to sort out an issue is by widening your circle. It doesn’t mean you befriend the whole office but maybe just one or two more people who can relate easily and faster to the things around you.

Sometimes sharing your work life with your longtime friend might not get the reception you expect.

Top Stories

Bride slammed for shaming best friend's wedding gift on social media
Bridal - By Mirror

Queen of rap Nicki Minaj marks 10 years since debut studio album and solo career
Achieving Woman - By Audrey Masitsa

Five common foods that could be staining your teeth
Wellness - By Lolita Bunde

Bad bachelor: How do I get out of this sexagenarian entrapment?
My Man - By Art Amacho

Six intimacy killers you should know
Between The Sheets - By Esther Muchene

Men only: Why many millennial marriages will fail...unless
My Man - By Tony Mochama

Mums praise Meghan Markle for devastatingly honest account of miscarriage and grief
Pregnancy - By Mirror

What you shouldn’t do if you disagree with your spouse
Relationships - By Esther Muchene

4 ways to break a soul tie
Relationships - By Jennifer Karina

Dry-humping can get you pregnant...even with your clothes on
Health - By Daily Mail

Latest Stories

How to deal with envy and jealousy in your friendships
Girl Talk - By Audrey Masitsa

Bad idea: Driving lessons from your man
Girl Talk - By Beryl Wanga Itindi

Man catfished by woman falls in love with her sister after she used her photos
Girl Talk - By Mirror

Girl code: People, he is my husband, not my robot
Girl Talk - By Beryl Wanga Itindi

Eight dating trends singles should watch out for in 2021
Girl Talk - By Mirror

Confessions: My husband died before building a house for me, how do I approach my co-wife?
Girl Talk - By Hilda Boke Mahare

Girl code: Yes, your husband is still someone’s son
Girl Talk - By Beryl Wanga Itindi

#MyWord: How do you know you’re broken?
Girl Talk - By Christine Koech

How to know if your group of friends is toxic
Girl Talk - By Lolita Bunde

Signs you have an anxious attachment style
Girl Talk - By Audrey Masitsa

Stay Ahead!

Access premium content only available
to our subscribers.

Support independent journalism
Log in
Support independent journalism
Create an account    Forgot Password
Create An Account
Support independent journalism
I have an account Log in
Reset Password
Support independent journalism
Log in