Breakups are hard enough as it is, but when your ex keeps texting you for reasons only known to him (or her), it becomes even harder.
I have an ex who refused to understand the concept of leaving me alone, even after I begged him to. I needed the space to heal, I remember pleading with him. It was like speaking to a doorpost. Useless. It got so bad that I had to change my phone number just to get away from him. I might not have needed to take such drastic measures but my mental health was on an all time low. The relationship hadn’t been a healthy one and the best way I thought I could recover was to steer completely away from him.
There could be various reasons why your ex keeps messaging you. If you’re wondering why, read on for some possibilities.
1. They feel guilty for how things ended
If your ex initiated the breakup or it ended with a nasty exchange, they might be feeling bad about how it went down and they’re trying to either ease their conscience or make amends.
2. They miss you
Inasmuch as it’s nice knowing that your ex misses you, it can leave you with a bad taste in your mouth especially when you consider that they suddenly realise what a treasure you were, long after they’ve broken your heart.
3. They’re bored
Particularly now when we’re social distancing, it can get quite tempting to reach out to a familiar face “just to catch up”. Boredom can make you do very strange things and talking to an ex you had previously sworn never to talk to is one of them.
4. They want attention
Being single can be lonely especially when you’re stuck at home alone. Maybe you gave them the right kind of attention that satisfied their need for human interaction thus they look to you to fill that void.
5. They’re having difficulty moving on
Getting over and starting a new relationship or living the single life is difficult. Your ex might be unable or unwilling to put in the effort to move on and thus they’re clinging to you.
6. They’re trying to see if you’ve moved on
Curiosity can get the better us. That random text from your ex can be their curiosity getting the better of them. They probably want to know what you’re up to nowadays, if you’re still pining for them or if you’ve moved on.
7. They want to be friends
The romantic relationship might not have worked but your friendship was good and they’re missing it.
8. They want you back
Maybe, after the time apart, they’ve realised that breaking up was a mistake and they want you back. How you respond will confirm to your ex if you’re interested in reuniting or not.
Remember that inasmuch as that text from your ex annoys you, your reply can determine whether or not they keep texting. If you’re not interested in speaking to them, take your time replying or if the relationship wasn’t healthy, ignore them altogether.
On the other hand, if you think there’s a possibility of being friends or rekindling your love, be polite and respond accordingly. Keep the conversation going so that your ex knows you’re open to keeping them in your life.