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Seven important things you need to know before saying ‘I do’

Bridal By Esther Muchene
You need to consider what both of you need from life? (Image: Shutterstock)

This is the part of your life where you go from being in a relationship to settling down with your spouse hoping to live happily ever after. Before you take the step into the lifelong promise of marriage, you need to consider the goals and dreams that you are both chasing. The big question is: will you be able to support each other’s dreams and goals?

You need to consider what both of you need from life. Will you be able to pursue your dreams together? After tying the knot, will you be able to sacrifice some things and let them go? The questions at this point are more than what one would imagine. Below are seven things you need to know before saying I do.

  1. Go for pre-marital counselling

As a couple preparing to walk down the aisle, you need to go for pre-marital counselling together six months before the wedding. This is to ensure that both of you are on the same page and that marriage is what you want! Counselling will help you set the correct foundation as well as being able to save enough money before the big day in order to have your dream wedding.

  1. How to communicate

Yes, when dating most of us are usually more open to our partners but after marriage, things often change. You need to be able to have a strong communication bond because it will bring you closer than ever. Never bottle in or hold things inside. Learn each other’s communication languages as well as ways to break the ice after an argument or fallout.

You need to be able to have a strong communication bond? (Image: Shutterstock)
  1. Religious views

Before taking the big step, you need to know if you and your partner hold the same religious views. For example, you might be a protestant and he might be catholic. Would you both be willing to compromise and wed in an Anglican church or will one of you convert? You need to keep this in mind, especially when the kids come so as to avoid confusing them.

  1. How to deal with finances

This is typically a major issue that makes couples separate or divorce. Are you both willing to disclose your income and combine your money to pay the bills together? One of you needs to take charge and handle the bulk of the finances. To be on the same page, you need to lay it all out on the table when it comes to money.

Are you both willing to disclose your income and combine your money to pay the bills together?? (Image: Shutterstock)
  1. Sharing principles

Before starting a life together, you need to discuss future plans. As a couple, you need to learn how to share common ethics and mutual goals such as whether or not to have children, saving up to buy a house and running a family business or being employed. Since you already know what you want in life, discuss it with your fiancé and let them speak their mind as well.

Don’t threaten to leave or mention leaving (Image: Shutterstock)
  1. Respect each other

Respect may greatly determine how long your marriage will hold up. To do this well, you need to respect yourself first. You can’t give what you don’t have. Therefore, charity must begin at home. Treat each other cordially irregardless of any prevailing situation at hand. Try to put your partner’s feelings over your own.

  1. Never give up

As much as relationships are hard, marriage is harder so you both need to compromise and work together to make it work. You should never quit so easily, and you must be open to forgiveness regardless of the issue. Don’t threaten to leave or mention leaving. Always stay committed and fight for your union.

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