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Five signs you need to improve for the sake of your relationship

Readers Lounge By Grace Ng'ang'a
Men love it when you listen to them, try be a better listener (Shutterstock)

Do you ever feel like you are in a one-sided relationship? Do you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, that he is drifting away and you don’t seem to know why? Well, the fear of the unknown is the worst feeling ever. Love is sweet but at the same time it is never a bed of roses. Without even realizing it, you could be the one pushing him away by your actions and reactions.

Here are signs that you need to improve for the sake of your relationship

He is no longer free to talk about himself with you

A good and healthy relationship is all about communication. If you embrace good communication in your relationship, you will never feel like he is drifting away. Communication keeps the relationship going and if both of you are interested in the relationship, then you will always share how you feel.

A man should always be free to talk to you about his issues. If you notice he is unusually quiet, then maybe you need to be more approachable. You might also want to try talking to him about it.

You are always seeing him as a burden

When it gets to the point where you feel your partner is a burden, first off, you might have to sit down and decide whether you want to fix the relationship or move on.

Chances are you have also made him feel like a burden in the relationship and he is withdrawing out of guilt. If you care about the relationship, you can have a talk about it and try to find amicable ways of relating with each other without either one of you feeling burdened.

Without even realizing it, you could be the one pushing him away (Shutterstock)

You talk more than you listen

This is one of the worst traits of many women. Men love it when you listen to them. If you are more of a talker than a listener, you will notice him getting less interested in your talks, mostly doing something else as you talk. When a man stops listening to you, it’s time to work on your relationship and there’s no better way than to start by working on your listening skills.

Sex becomes a non-issue

Men love sex. If you are not giving it to him, he will definitely look for it elsewhere. Being unavailable emotionally and physically is likely to draw him away. Intimacy strengthens your emotional bonds and the lack of it is likely to have a strain on your relationship. For a healthy relationship, you should not be a woman of many excuses.

You find yourself forcing him to commit

You cannot force a man to commit. A man will commit to you when the time is right for him, and when he feels deep down he wants to. If you find yourself harbouring thoughts of trapping him or blackmailing him to commit, then you need to make adjustments lest you lose him altogether.

When a man notices that you are somehow forcing him to commit, always raising the issue, he freaks out and may end up drifting away from you. Give your man the time he needs and be the best partner for him. Everything will certainly fall into place.

Any relationship can be fixed. If you notice any of the above, you may have to start making changes from your end. Fix them and save yourself the agony of losing a beautiful relationship.

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