This has to be one of an old age questions. Why is it that husbands never leave their wives? This is a very opinionated topic that continues to haunt marriages and relationships. As many try to explain this ‘phenomenon,’ one thing is for sure, men want to have their cake and eat it too. Cheaters do not necessarily want a breakup when they are looking for a lover. Those who chose to go outside their marriage do so, they are just selfish and simply need some adventure. Whether you are the wife or mistress, here are five reasons you should be aware of that make men stay with their wives despite their philandering ways.
- He has it all
When you think about it, why would a man leave the woman who’s giving him amazing sex when he needs it then go home to a perfect family? He has two girlfriends who give everything he needs so why would he want to ruin that balance by leaving either one, more so the mother of his children? Call it the ideal situation for any guy. Clean clothes, food, kids, sex, an escape, you name it.
- He loves his wife
If he really loves you as he claims, he should have left his wife already. The true reason he married her is because he loves her. Despite their challenges, he still goes back home. If he truly loved you as the mistress, he should be willing to sacrifice his family and wife to be with you regardless of the consequences. The reason you are still waiting for him to leave his wife two years later is because he doesn’t want to. The other woman will always be just that and she will continue wasting her time on a man who will never be hers.
- They value their children
Despite him cheating, men stay so they can be give their children a stable family especially if he didn’t have one growing up. Even if he is not getting along with his wife, his children will make him commit to his marriage.
- Divorce is too messy
Divorce cases are ugly to say the least. No one in their right minds wants to go through that pain if they don’t have to. If he can hide the affair from his wife and continue parading as an upright man he can keep both his wife and the other woman happy. If the arrangement is working and no one is complaining then why would he want to put himself through a divorce?
- He just wants a break
Men don’t cheat with the intention of leaving their wives. They look at it as simply sex or as an arrangement where two adults are benefiting without attachment or commitment. In his mind, he has justified his actions as no big deal hence his decision to be unfaithful. He is not looking for love.