4 ‘boy child’ types we should leave in 2017

2018 will be our best year yet. We will look better, feel better and be more successful. Heck, we will even ditch the ‘boy child’ and meet a real man in the New Year. Perhaps the ‘twende tuone wazee’ conversation will finally be had…

Reality check! 2018’s #RelationshipGoals will not be achieved if you keeping mucking around with the same old Peter Pans. Sista girl, these are 4 types of men you have to leave in 2017:

1.         Mr Lucrative Business Opportunity

Love is great, but it doesn’t put food on the table. So if you’re not agreeable with being a human ATM, you need to steer clear of the shifty Mr Lucrative Business Opportunity.

This man is always working on some grand, but unspecified, business deal. Millions are on the way, and soon you two will be living in the lap of luxury, he promises. In the meantime, you will have to foot his bills…and pay for the dates…and give him ‘soft loans’.

While there’s nothing wrong with supporting your man as he chases his dreams, he needs to have earned the privilege to that support. More importantly, he’s got to have a clear and realistic game plan.

If he’s expecting financial support from the beginning, chances are YOU are that business opportunity he’s chasing. 

2.         Your Ex 2.0

While most of us tend to have a “type”, no good can come out of reinstalling defective software.  You tried dating the suave womanizer before, and you realized your system couldn’t cope with the side chick virus. So, why put yourself though that again?

If you notice that this version also has the ‘wandering eye bug’, click uninstall. Immediately. Go back to the App Store and check out other options. 

3.         The guy with the ‘crazy’ ex-girlfriends

Generally speaking, we do not come out of the womb stark raving mad. By the time we are pouring bleach on our boyfriend’s clothes as Beyoncé’s Lemonade blares in the background, there must be some provocation.

If he claims his previous beaus were certifiably insane, chances are he did something to make them act crazy. It takes two to tango.

Maturity dictates that we acknowledge what part we played in the dissolution of a relationship, taking full responsibility for our actions. Constant deflection of blame is a sign of bad things to come.

4.         Mr. Almost, very nearly, but not quite

You hang out regularly, chat incessantly and occasionally joke about how “bizarre” it would be if you end up together. You teeter on the brink of having the conversation, but every time you attempt to define the relationship – he promptly recoils. He drops of the radar and promptly pops back up when you find a new love interest. 

Without explicitly stating his intentions, he subtly drops hints about his feelings. He’s earnest in his pursuit…until he isn’t. He drops off again.

He clearly cares about you, but he sufferers from an acute case of commitment phobia. If he refuses to deal with his commitment issues, your affections will earn you a permanent seat on the ‘commitaphobe’ merry-go-round.

If you are tired of the games, make 2018 be the year that you only entertain people who are able and willing to commit. 

Sometimes it’s the things that we don’t do that make us who we are. Refusing to entangle ourselves with shady boy child types is the first step in getting the kind of affection we deserve.