Some women try too hard to please men

Women are interesting creatures. We yap and blab about emancipation but in reality what ails us is edged deeply within.

The desperate attempts we make to please the opposite sex is a true indicator that we need liberation from insecurities, low self-esteem and societal yardsticks that measure our success, beauty and ability.

Let us start from dressing. There was a debate at a local radio station on who we dress to impress. When a woman is dressed in a cloth too skimpy that she literally struggles to pull it down, when her cleavage is threatening to spill over her top, when she is obviously uncomfortable in what she chose to wear, isn’t that a new level of low self-esteem?

There is decency and beauty in covering up and exposing areas that are more pertinent like brains. Young girls, in high school and colleges, even those starting out in life, it is a tough world out here for females and one weapon of standing out and getting your place in the society is by earning respect. Remember, you are addressed by the way you dress.

When I recently saw mothers flaunt their young daughters wearing full makeup on a popuar social media page, my heart sank.

I hope one day God grants me the blessing of being a mother to a daughter; I will teach her that beauty is skin deep and make-up however acceptable is only to supplement or enhance. I will teach her that character and a smile even in the midst of adversity is all the make-up a woman needs in this world and that some of the most accomplished women in the world have achieved their feats without as much as mascara or foundation.

Men commonly joke that Kenyan women are so fake that today she looks like Beyoncé, tomorrow Rihanna and when she wakes up in the morning, she looks like the back of a shoe. As senile as the joke might sound, it purveys that these guys are not amused by the cakes of make-up on our faces.

Do not get me wrong, I do make-up, I believe in make-up, but for starters, do not apply them on children for obvious health reasons and two, let them make that decision when they are old enough. Stop teaching them that a woman’s beauty is gauged by the brand of makeup on her face; even as adults, there are women who cannot do without makeup because they are so insecure that they would sleep in makeup.

Just when I thought the desperation has not gotten the better of us, Strepsils and lemon users all in the name of tightening a vagina pop. My friend, if your man feels you are not tight enough and I doubt that men actually register such concerns, then it is him to enlarge his penis. Why must it be the other way round?

It beats logic why women would go to such extremes and boast on social media platforms with the intention of educating other gullible, insecure ones on how to spice up the bedroom; that is not spicing up anything, that is being unfair to a very important part of your body and the health hazards are incommensurable.

One more stupid act women agree to is recording a sex tape or taking nude photos. It is a man’s world let me say for the umpteenth time. He might be the one standing next to you taking the pictures while you are grinning from ear to ear after a good romp has mesmerised you.

 Guess what honey, at the slightest misunderstanding, some of these uncultured and classless men will not hesitate to shove your bushy Miss V on social media and my friend, there are online goons and bullies who will down trod you so badly by the time they are done!

I surely hope not to see my mother’s agemate holding her sagging breasts for a few clicks while greening sheepishly. It is crass, shameless.

Do what you got to do but let the man keep the camera out of your face, wacha ajipige asambaze his own photos online, si yako