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We have been married for seven years and we have never had a child. We have tried everything we could to no avail. My husband is getting frustrated that I cannot bear him a child. My in-laws are advising him to get a second wife to give him children. I am stressed and depressed. Kindly help.
Most couples go through pain and agony before getting their first baby. The expectation of the community, and especially in-laws, is that a couple should get a child in the first year of marriage. That is not always the case and you are a testimony to that fact.
A family is complete with a husband and wife. A child’s arrival is not an indication of completeness. It is an addition to the family. While people refer to children as a blessing - and that is the truth - it should not be misconstrued to mean a family without a baby is not blessed.
The solution would be purposeful communication and restraining of the people who are stressing you about getting a baby. Your husband should not allow his relatives to push you - unless he is part of the scheme to frustrate you.
I believe by now you know why you have not been able to get a baby. If not, get an opinion from different doctors and experts.
If it is not possible for your husband and you to have a baby, consider adopting one to live in your house or helping orphans and vulnerable or abandoned children in baby centres. This way, you will fulfil your heart’s desire to raise children. Is your husband frustrating you in any way? Is he blaming you for not being able to get a baby? You may need to attend a therapy session as a couple to deal with the issues together.
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