Decide your way of living

I once had to make an important decision. It was to be wise too, and so I prayed and even consulted a few persons.

See, it was important that I make the right move otherwise I would have been hurt, my family too.

The interesting thing is that whenever I started thinking of going a certain way, I got this splitting headache and my mood became so dull.

With time however, and with consideration of quite a number of factors, I made a decision to do nothing about the situation but wait for life to unfold, as it always does.

And unfold it has, in the most magical way. Somehow, I made the right decision by not making a decision at all.

Decisions have shaped humanity over the years and continue to do to so. Every day, nations sit down to hold momentous meetings that ultimately affect them.

Heads of State and governments have shaped history and of course humanity with their decisions, sometimes casually, behind those air-conditioned conference as they sip from dainty tea cups.

On a personal level however, decisions are different ball game all together.

In as much as you may be surrounded by loving and well-meaning friends and family, at the end of the day, no one else can make that important decision for you as best as you can. It is up to you really, because it is your life and you get to live with the consequences.

The biggest prison people find themselves in is the prison of other people’s opinions.

People always have opinions and perspective which are shaped by internal and external factors.

But those are their opinions, they have got nothing to do with your decision, and they should not impact on your decision to say, go study abroad and leave your three-month old baby with your husband.

After you have heard from those you care to hear from, weigh the pros and cons dispassionately; almost in a scientific fashion, based on your goals and aspirations, and how it affects your family and those who impact on your life in one way or the other.

Finally, remember there is that little animal called gut feeling. Whenever this intuitive feeling is ignored, the regret is huge.

Learn to listen to that inner voice, it is almost always on point even when the rational says otherwise.

All in all, put yourself first.

Fill up your cup before you fill other people’s cups.

It is not about being selfish, but about valuing yourself and putting yourself first.

Do not be afraid. Do what you want. But remember that decision is the cord that will shape your future.