A soul tie is the knitting together of two souls. It can either bring tremendous blessings in a Godly relationship or tremendous destruction when made with the wrong persons.
A soul tie in the Bible can be described not only by the word knit, but also by the word cleave, which means to bring close together, follow close after, be attached to someone, or adhere to one another as with glue.
Soul ties are often formed through sexual relations. Consummation in legal terms means to complete a marriage by sexual intercourse. “The act of sex is marriage through consummation.” Every time an unmarried person engages in sex, they become married to that person.
Sex outside marriage rips and tears the soul when one tries to break away. Remember you are joined as one and it hurts when you try to break away. Emotional intimacy and words can also form soul ties. When people say, “I will love you forever” or “I got your back no matter what”, you tend to hold on to those words when you have a soul tie because a co-dependency has been created.
Sexual abuse is another way soul ties can be formed. When someone is sexually abused as a child, the soul tie can greatly affect their relationship in adulthood. Unhealthy relationships are another cause of soul ties. We can define these relationships as physically or emotionally abusive and manipulative. The display victim mentality and high levels of sexual lust. Soul ties are one of the main reasons men and women have troubled relationships.
How to break a soul tie
• Awareness is the heart beat of therapy. Acknowledge the unhealthy past, avoid the person and ask God to give you the strength to move on. If any sins were committed to cause this soul tie, repent of them.
• Destroy or give away any gifts given to you by the other person. Items that symbolise the ungodly practices in past and present relationships such as rings, flowers, cards and bras can hold a soul tie in place if not let go.
• Renounce any vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul tie. Even things like “I will love you forever”, or “I could never love another man!” need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be undone verbally.
• Forgive that person if you have anything against them.
The writer is a relationship coach and author, Marriage Built to Last