Reasons you should always get over a broken heart

By Joy Carole (www.joycarole.com)

In all sincerity, getting over a broken heart is one of the hardest things you can ever do especially if you sacrificed your all for the growth of your botched relationship. The pain that comes with it is never bearable and if it is, it can weigh you down and drain your energy to go on with life.

Conversely, a lot of people have survived it and you too are no exemption. From a person who had to live through two of them, to you the person struggling through the teary nights, haunting memories and a lot for of I wish I knew thoughts, do not think it is the end of the world because it's not; rather, it's the beginning of a new side to yourself that you never knew existed.

If you have reached the point where your relationship can no longer be salvaged and all you are left with is the exit; go through the following reasons which will help you understand why you should get over the infamous heartbreak that has left many desolate.

1. It strengthens you

Pain can either make you hardy or weaker depending on how you choose to use it. Overcoming that heartbreak is one distinct thing that will escalate your inner strength and resilience, especially if you focus on your self-development during that time.

Choose to let that pain make you a fighter instead of a victim. Having a victim mindset will only make it impossible for you to carry on and with time, you will sink neck-deep into pity, sadness, hopelessness and finally, nothingness. Sadly, all these baggage will take a toll on your life; and it will be hard for you to stay positive, concentrate on achieving your goals and keep your mind on becoming a better person.

Seeing to it that you don't look back will make you always remember the will and strength you had to muster to get over it; and there is nothing as empowering like knowing you did it all through your determination.

2. It teaches you how to address disappointments

Unknown to you and other people, recovering from a relationship gone wrong is an edifying way of dealing with one of the most impactful disappointments any human has to face.

Don't bother fighting with your ex when it’s over, it's over, don't beat yourself up over the things you should have done or not; stop assuming all relationships will hurt after that and don't go for anyone just because you're lonely and emotionally needy. All these do nothing to help you cope with the disappointment; but calming down, getting a hold of yourself and taking time to make peace with what happened makes you see reality as it is, thus making you focus on the ways of going on with your life.

3. Leads to your personal growth

You will never learn anything if you don't get over that heartbreak since you will be stuck in a very negative part of your life, where you will be glued to the pain and probable vengeance.

However, if drop all that, rise above it and focus on the productive side of it, you will discover the intensity of your willpower, you will know what to do when you encounter a setback; you will be conscious of how to handle yourself during challenges and you will know how to pick out constructive lessons from situations meant to break you down.

If the only way out of a past relationship is an exit, go for it because sometimes the tough choices you have to make also are good for you. When you are going through this phase, don't forget to take stock. Find out what you can use to be a better person and lover, learn from the mistakes you and your ex made, get to know what you want from your next relationship so that you don't waste time on the wrong ones; and map out your way into developing your life.

Don't let your life stop just because your relationship ended. Your dreams, goals and life are bigger than that heartbreak; and they deserve your due attention all the time regardless of what you are going through. Do not spend your energy and time revolving around bygones when you could be busy getting on with your life just like your ex is.

As you much as people say it's easier said than done, I did it; I know of other people who did it and I'm sure you know some too. Anything that seems hard to overcome is what will make you stronger if you pay attention to what will build up your strength. Keep believing in yourself and never think for a moment that you won't pull through because you will. When you think like an overcomer, you will be one; and you will never know how strong you can be until when you prevail over what is deemed impossible.