Young woman, you can't be this desperate at 24 years old, surely

Traditionally, it was single women in their late 30s and 40s who arrived at the dehumanising conclusion that men are dogs.

As a consolation, such women always found solace in Gloria Steinem’s age-old cliché that a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle. At their age, it (apparently) is understandable. They have been through a dozen bad relationships, have a baby or two (and the ‘dog’ took off) and decided that they can make it on their own.

Lately, I have been encountering young women who think ideals such as love and marriage are for the slow-witted and the ‘saved.’

You meet a young woman who is so opinionated, she is almost anarchical. When you listen to her, you can discern the hurt, but there’s very little you can do to assuage the anger boiling in her impressionable mind. How often do you meet young women claiming to be lesbians just because they were frustrated by men?

What will drive young women to hold such a pessimistic attitude towards life? I will blame it on the age many girls are being introduced to sex.

Nowadays, by the time a woman turns 24, she would probably have gone a full circle. Been there, done that, with a T-shirt to show. She would have slept with several men, she lost count.

Her body count (street parlance for the number of men a woman has slept with) can easily make up two football teams. In between, she would have had an abortion or two, though some opt to keep the babies. Never forget the scars from their poor choice of men that result in them having such radical and condescending opinion towards all men.

Essentially, what used to take women 15 years of experimentation, is nowadays achieved in a record four years in the early 20s, the time they are in college. When you compound this with trashy TV programmes shipped to our shores from Hollywood, you shouldn’t be surprised at the number of young women who think being independent is as easy as it sounds.

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In the absence of grandmothers and wise aunts who inculcated life skills in many young women, the young girls are being brought up by mothers who are morally bankrupt, physically absent and socially inept.

Their mothers are only awakened from their slumber when the daughter turns up at home pregnant and she has to contend with the accidental early grandparenthood.

Now, what we have are young women who have taken a ‘Do-It-Yourself’ approach to life with drastic consequences. The confidence and frequency with which they ask for morning-after pills at the local pharmacy is unnerving.  While the pill may have liberated their sexuality, they have no guidance on the dangers of reckless sex.

The problem of having too much fun when young is that life loses meaning at a very a early age. For many young women already too desperate for life, they end up getting married to men who are too old for them, leading to unfulfilled marriages that stain our country like bad politicking.

Parents, the church, aunties and other parties should start teaching women a sense of self-worth, self-respect and sexual discipline in their teenage.

Emphasis should be on protection, contraception and the beauty of having fun in moderation.

This way, we can preclude young women from wasting their lives in alcohol, drugs and rampant sex that turns them into empty, frustrated adults taking solace in cheap feminist creeds.

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