Why being a modern second wife is a dog's life

Polygamy died with our grandparents. In the olden days,being a second wife was respectable and cool.This days,it's not only pathetic but also desperate.

Modern day second wives never make it.If you think am lying,ask yourself why most women who went public that :"am a proud second wife" are now wounded single mothers.I could mention names,but our good editor won't be amused with me.

It's laughable how a modern woman decides to be a second wife.You wonder if men have been wiped out of the earth's face.Or someone held them at gun point and they had no option but to play second fiddle.They are not even second fiddle.Whoever said polygamy ensures men are faithful,lied to us all.Ask second wives and they will tell you.In case they put on a plastic smile,look into their eyes and you will see the disappointment.

The man can always take a third wife,have mistresses or settle for both.That's the time second wives become caged.They never sing or continue bad mouthing the first wife.It dawns on them that the first wife was and is still better than them.Many take off and say things like "bwana wa mtu ni wa mtu".That's their line of surrender.

Those who remain live a life of married singles.The husband is neither at their place nor at the co-wife's.They,like single women,stuff many pillows on their beds.They check for the umpteenth time if they locked the door.And learn to fix bulbs and unclog blocked kitchen sinks.

The modern day second wife is simply daft.She's competitive rather than being a first wife's complementary.She fights small battles and wins, but loses the war hands down.She never makes a home.They are interested in how their houses will be better than their co-wife's.

Unless second wives learn to settle for more and stop appreciating crumbs that fall from a man's wealth,it's in vain to be in that polygamous marriage.It should be illegal for second wives to live in matchbox sized houses,fend for themselves and still have babies with a man who hasn't paid full dowry.But as I said,many choose the wrong battles.

When everything is said and nothing can be done to stop women from being second wives,it all boils down to "Akili ni Nywele".Sharp second wives(with sprayed weaves)live large.The man feeds from their palms.Dump one's live a dog's life-then leave.