Girl code: My husband is from a different generation

We are living in an era where there’s a conflict of interest among generations that believe in different things. Fortunately, or unfortunately, marriages and relationships haven’t been left out. This especially applies to those in unions with people from different generations.

I belong to the millennial generation (born between 1981 to 1996) and we all know what this generation wants in a relationship.

Most of us are in relationships within our generation, then there are those in relationships with Generation Z (born 1997 or after) and finally, there are those in relationships with Generation X (born 1965 to 1980). All these three generations have a different view of what love entails.

As a millennial, given a choice, I would gladly get into a relationship with someone from Generation X because my fellow millennials have become a nut too hard to crack for me.

For instance, I wouldn’t mind dating someone older than me by 10 years. That would give me some sort of comfort and solace.

Not that I have never tried my age mates. I have tried and, believe me, we both kept fighting for attention from each other to the extent we never even realised our positions in the whole set up.

Both of us ended up behaving like children and we were left to wonder what would happen if we decided to have children, I mean real children.

It would be one confused family with everyone seeking attention. I must admit it was such a demanding relationship that the day we both got a chance to end it, we did with no further discussions.

I have also dated someone eight years older than I am and, I tell you, I was the ‘baby’ in the relationship; always seeking guidance from this man and he would give it lovingly without making me feel like my whole life depended on his thinking.

Such people have a way of holding your hand and leading you to the right path because they have probably seen it all and done it.

I must, however, say not all older men reason like this. It all depends on someone’s upbringing and attitude. There are those who are a big pain and you wouldn’t spend a day with them without hitting your anger limit.

Just the same way there are those from my generation who are so good at what they do, they make you feel like the queen you are. However, I feel like there are higher chances of getting that dream man in someone older than in your age mate or someone younger.

My relationship with my age mate was tough. Whenever I would get emotional and start crying, he would either join me or sit there or continue watching football until I finished crying then he would carry on as if my crying never happened.

The latter was a bit bearable but you can imagine your spouse joining you in crying like it was a competition!

These are the same humans who will get out of bed at noon when you are already running errands elsewhere and not make the bed because “Baby but I was the one who made the bed yesterday, today is your turn”.

How is it my turn while I am already out there trying to put everything in order? I however don’t put any blame on them, they are just playing their part in their generation and they sure have that one generation that will embrace all that.

Sometimes I wish they would be like older fellows who will not make the bed but will never give such a flimsy excuse.

They will be home waiting for you with open arms and sweet talk you into making the bed. When you cry, they will hold you in their arms and as they say everything to calm you down.

These people will never try to seek any attention from you and wouldn’t mind giving it either. You will be that queen they have waited for all their life.

They will hold you in their palms like a fragile egg and protect you like mother hen does her chicks. That there is all a woman needs.

If we want to compete, we will join a competition. We are in marriage to be your other half, to love and protect you and to submit to you as you respect us.

Men, you are the head in a family set up, that will never change. So play the head and stop with the tug of war already!

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