Why is it that I keep attracting married men?

For the past five years or so, I have found myself attracting married men or men who have kids but who claim to have parted ways with the mother of their children. I never go out looking for married men in terms of them being my sponsors because I am partially stable (financially) and I take care of my own bills and have invested here and there.

I am 25 years old but I don't have a man to call boyfriend or fiancée. I feel that it is now time to be in a serious relationship and to have a family of my own and not with a married man or one who already has children. Unfortunately I just keep attracting married men. Please advise me. {Lillian}

Your Take:

Lillian, I hope you are not practising to be a home breaker. You cannot also be sure that you are the only woman in these men’s lives. Stop moving around with other people’s husbands else you will be beaten or murdered by their wives. How would you feel if you found out that another woman was dating your husband or boyfriend? It is not right to continue breaking people’s homes and you may cause others a lot of heartache or even broken marriages.

{Onyango Outha}

At your age, it may not be abnormal that you often attract married men. You may be casting your net a little too wide or in places where only married men are available. Try and look for a man who you may call your own as these are the only ones you will be able to settle down with. This will require a lot of patience and maybe even new approaches to dating.

{Tasma Saka}

Patience is always the key to any good thing that comes our way. Remain calm and composed for the time is coming. It could be that the married men form most of your companions or colleagues at work or in your social circles. Do not be in a hurry to get into relationships with just about anyone. My prayer is for you to remain calm and relaxed as young single Romeo is just about to knock your door.

{Ouma Ragumo}

This is simple arithmetic, stop being insecure and find yourself a single straight man. There are places you can find such men and they include churches, weddings and other social gatherings in which single men don’t go near unless you are willing to play second fiddle. If you continue on the path you are on, you will one day get tired of always playing the other woman so do yourself a favour and get a man of your own. Married men will never leave their wives.

{Andrew Chaplin}

Married men or unmarried men (if you like) will always hit on young ladies like you but only if you allow them to. I am sure that there are many single men out there who can deliver whatever it is that you are looking for. They are everywhere and you just have to open your eyes wide open. At 25 you need not share a man with another woman. You need a man of your own. {Fred Jausenge}