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Common relationship problems and how to solve them

 Problems in relationships are very common (Photo: Shutterstock)

No relationship is perfect because they’re all being steered by imperfect people. Frustrating as they may be, problems in relationships are very common.

While not everything is a deal breaker that has to bring the relationship to an end, not all problems are necessarily unhealthy. Some issues may actually give you a chance as a couple to improve on certain things making it stronger and healthier than it started off.

As long as you are both open and willing to work on your relationship, here are some of the common problems you may encounter along the way and how to deal with them. 

  • Communication breakdown

  • Good communication is key in any relationship. Important as it may be, it can create a lot of problems if not done well. We all communicate differently. Some people like to talk, others naturally don’t like to talk and others would rather not deal with problems versus those who want to talk every situation out.

    In this case, things become complicated.

    To foster proper communication, encourage the quiet partner to open up and express themselves. Talk face to face and avoid serious conversations via text to avoid miscommunication and misunderstandings.

    If there is a problem, honestly communicate what is bothering you. Avoid the blame game and becoming defensive which will make the other person not listen to you.

     Having a conversation around intimacy is a good place to start (Photo: Shutterstock)
  • Bad sex

  • Is there a lack of intimacy or is the sex just plain boring? As the months go by, couples may start having less and less sex enjoying the comfort of just being together in their little nest. 

    Although some sexual problems may need professional or medical help, having a conversation around it is a good place to start.

    Raise issues about what you want and don’t want. Be intentional and do things to spice up your love life. You can explore different sex positions, adventurous options, sexting or even going out every other weekend to kick back and enjoy each other’s company.

  • Money issues

  • Financial issues have been blamed for many divorces. No matter what stage your relationship is in, money quarrels can be a huge problem.

    It is always a good idea to discuss debt, expenses and spending habits before getting into a serious relationship. Should debt arise after you’re a couple, communicate it to your partner. Failure to do so will create mistrust.

    Naturally some people are spenders’ others are savers. Learn to meet halfway. If you must, go to a financial advisor who will help you plan and spend your money wisely. Financial apps may also be helpful. Look for those that meet your needs.

    Lastly, have open communication lines where there is no judgement and there is no guilt shaming when one makes more or spends something small on themselves.

     Once broken trust is almost impossible to piece it back together (Photo: Shutterstock)
  • Trust 

  • Like a mirror, once broken trust is almost impossible to piece it back together. Whether it was out of creating, lack of commitment or bad experience from your past relationship-which is understandable, you must get to the root of the problem.

    Find the cause and ways to build back that trust. Don’t allow unresolved issues to break what you have.

    Listen and be transparent to each other about your needs and fears. Schedule some time to be checking in with each other and if that isn’t working seek the services of a marriage or relationship counsellor.

  • Insecurities

  • Jealousy is a normal part of human nature we all go through. It becomes unhealthy when you start becoming possessive. Having its root in trust issues like cheating, many insecurities have their root in absence of trust.

    Others stem from trivial things like your partner paying a member of the opposite sex compliments or comparing yourself. Whatever the case may be, work on yourself and let your partner know how they can help you have less triggers.

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