Fellow men, please listen and learn your manners

I was in a bus the other day, on my way to town, like any other Friday, there was traffic. The bus was loud as usual, then this car in front of uscided to move to the next lane to take a turn and the commotion started. The bus driver, the conductor and the men in the bus all joined in the series of demeaning comments targeted at the other driver. With all that noise and excitement, I just had to take a look and see who it was that had caused so much noise, it was a woman.

She seemed professional, dressed for the office and minding her business, I can only assume she was going to work. The insults were taken to a whole other level when they called her out; her family and her assumed children. Like seriously, she was just driving to work.

So here is what really bugged me.

A lot of men out there claim they love their women, some even say they love all women, yet you call out one woman who has said nothing to you nor done anything to you except drive.

You claim you love your woman yet you mark her body with disgraceful signs of hate, making her give excuses because she is ashamed of the truth.

You claim she means the world to you yet you treat her like a slave, worthless and poor.

You claim to love her yet you belittle her for simply trying to be your woman, you make her cry and ruin her mascara for something so simple.

So, to all the men, and young boys, who sit around mocking and insulting that woman or girl who rejected you, or didn’t dress how you would have wished her to dress, for choosing to not be your personal punching bag or your Barbie doll, for being independent, for the many reasons that make you think you can simply treat a woman like garbage, please remember, you came from a woman.

A woman who carried you for months and lived through the journey that is pregnancy, a woman who endured the excruciating pain of labor just so you take your first breath and live to say those foul words, a woman whose breasts you fed on and probably ruined, a woman who stayed up all night because you had a fever, a woman who woke up simply because you wanted to play, a woman who listened even when she knew nothing about what you were talking about, a woman who is your mother.

She is the woman who birthed you and yet you have the audacity to call someone’s mother, sister, and daughter out of her name and drag her name down the street, because of what??

Is it pride??

Ego??

Irrational fear of emasculation??

I am curious.

What exactly prompts you to just feel like that?

For the several boys and some men who actively go on social media to shame women because of periods and how our bodies work, uuhhmm excuse me, are you a woman? Do you know what it feels like to go through it? Have you ever experienced it? Please, grab a human biology book and read about it, it will do you a great deal, and if not, please, keep your mouth shut about things you do not understand.

We are people too you know, if we could turn the tables over and treat you like garbage too, would that make you happier?

Embarrass you, insult you, threaten you, beat you, shame you, defame you, would it be better?

I am really curious.