Pastors thoughts on choosy women who are over 35-years-old

No deadline for a true-match-Pastor

Pastor Jeff Nthiwa, a Life Coach with Destiny Life Coaching says there is no deadline for finding a true match.

Some people find their partners much later in life.

“Women should not compromise on their integrity and authenticity. However, as we get older we need courage to be flexible,” says the pastor.

Psychologically, it is not easy, admits Pastor Nthiwa. But such women should change their routines to get what they want in life. And sometimes they need a life coach to help them to get not just what is available but what aligns with their purpose and destiny.

“When we portray the images we wish to attract in ourselves, we naturally magnetise people with these same traits toward us. For women to do this, they have got to start treating themselves the way they want to be treated,” advises the pastor.

Why single people remain single is that they don’t truly make an effort to change things. It is like being unemployed. We employ several strategies to get a job. So should relationships. Friends and co-workers should know that you're looking for a relationship, and what exactly you're looking for. This can help you meet people they feel might be compatible to you.

“Many say “It’ll happen when I least expect it.” No! It’ll happen when you create it. So what are you doing to create it?” according to Pastor Nthiwa.

More advice from Pastor Nthiwa

Ø Friends can help set you up with single eligible guys.

Go about dating, as if you are hunting for a job.

Ø Attend singles events, parties, trips, church youth events – or at least doing activities that have single men in attendance?

Ø Take online dating seriously. If you can get a good job online, you can get a good man there too.

Ø Initiate contact with men. Say YES to their invitations for meetings.

Ø Engage in activities your potential partner would also be likely to engage in. No one is too old to do what they love.