The 'magic pull' of rehabilitating a broken girl

As a reasonable man, you believe in second chances. Your latest catch has one hell of a past, she is thoroughly hardened. Yet you can sense that sweet innocent girl who once lived in her.

You have established that her alcoholism, smoking and occasional abuse of harder stuff is a way of escaping harsh realities of life and circumstances she finds herself in.

Since she is intellectual, you want to rehabilitate her and save her from potential destruction. It is a big ask on your part. Changing an adult is a difficult thing.

You must device a strategy and hope it works. Hoping that she is not so deeply hooked in. Hoping she has not built this wall that people build around themselves to lock themselves in from the selfish, exploitative world.

So you come up with a strategy. It is simple; the old Englishmen once said example is better than precept. And you will try to show her the way. You will start by spending more time with her. You will not judge her or make her feel uncomfortable. You will assure her that you are confident with her. Her past does not matter, the future is all that matters.

As expected she will be skeptical. It is just human. But you will give her all the freedom. But smoking has to go. It is bad to her health and your health too. That means, you have to carefully ration out the going out and keep all the partying to indoors.

Of course she knows that you are meticulously clean and you will not appreciate the pungent cigarette stench that can soil the whole house when you live with a seasoned smoker.

So far, she has been behaving. She smokes on the balcony and does two cigarettes down from her usual six to eight in a day. Your distracting strategies have been helpful. She has not even complained or shown any withdrawal syndrome.

Your accepting her has helped her organise herself better. Lately, she is no longer the "I don’t care" girl you met a while ago. She has since rediscovered the salon, replenished her cosmetics and tried some new fashion. It is a quick turnaround, and you hope you can sustain it. I mean, you can’t be so meticulous and she remains shady.

She is happy and lately has become more responsible. She has started cooking anytime she visits, instead of calling out for pizza or fries. And she makes you happy, when she stays at home watching her movies. You are happy with the therapy you have given her so far. If you ghost on her now, she will lose faith in men and humanity.

It is a dangerous path you are treading on. You are not exactly interested in her for the long haul. May be things may change. But for now, she can fill in the void in your life. Sometimes, chasing after girls and women can be draining. And there are those phases where you just want to be in a stable relationship.

The bureaucracies of trying to seduce a woman can be draining. More so if you are busy. And if you come across a woman as clever as Cindy, you must squeeze everything from the encounter. She is not only clever and sexy, she is a qualified and gifted love maker. And so far, the two of you are enjoying everything. How long will it last... Who will be the first to walk away?

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