He dumped me after I got pregnant... now he wants to play daddy

He dumped me after I got pregnant... now he wants to play daddy

Dear Coleen,

I’d been with my boyfriend for nearly two years when I found out I was pregnant.

When I told him, he explained that he’d been planning to leave me, he didn’t love me and keeping the baby would be a mistake.

He said he didn’t want to be a dad or me to be a single parent, leaving me shocked and heartbroken.

I’ve made the decision to keep the baby for me, but now my ex has come back saying he wants to play daddy.

He even thinks he has the right to name our child. I’ve told him he hasn’t got a leg to stand on.

I still love him and miss him.

He has never apologized for his behavior, he just walked away like we were nothing to him.

I’ve stopped talking to him now as I haven’t got it in me to forgive and forget.

Coleen says.

At the moment I’m not surprised you’re feeling like this, you have enough to deal with and he left you at the worst time.

But try not to make any decisions about how involved your ex will be in your baby’s life until you’ve had the baby.

None of this is your fault and I ­understand you probably want to hurt him but I wouldn’t rule him out of being in your child’s life ­because, in the long run, that might be the best thing for them.

Concentrate on getting through the pregnancy but, once things settle down, think about how your child might feel at 16 if they track him down.

However, any contact must be on your terms and, of course, he has no right to name your child.

Good luck.