I got married three months ago and I already want to divorce my husband.
The way he’s treating me is making me feel trapped and lonely, and I find myself crying on a daily basis.
He’s a very nice guy and does things to try to make me happy – buying me gifts for example – and my family think he’s wonderful.
But I just feel like he’s erasing my personality and style, and trying to turn me into his “ideal woman”.
At first he was very understanding and open-minded, but after we got married he changed and became very controlling.
I’m not allowed to wear anything unless it’s a maxi dress or jeans. I can’t even wear tank tops because he hates it when I show my arms.
He bought me a new phone with a new number and told me to cut off all my friends, especially the guys, and made me get rid of all my social media accounts. He only likes it when I hang out with HIS friends, none of whom I like.
Honestly, I can’t stand this situation any more. I used to be a free spirit and my parents never told me what to wear or who to be friends with.
I allowed his behaviour to go this far because I love him and I didn’t want to lose him, but I also don’t want to lose myself.
I think about my friends every night and just sob while he’s out with his mates. But I worry that if I file for divorce so soon our families and all our friends are going to judge me for it and be really angry with me.
And, of course, I know he’ll be devastated. He has a nerve problem and whenever something really bad happens he kind of gets paralysed for a time and I don’t want to risk being responsible for that.
I feel scared and lost. Please help.