If you need a loan go to the bank, not your girlfriend

Still on the discussion of borrowing money in relationships, let us reverse the roles.

Should men borrow money from their girlfriends? Ladies, would you think less of him if he was running a bit low on finances and came to you for a helping hand? Call me old-fashioned, but I like the role of the man as a provider.

Most women instinctively want a man who will provide for them and borrowing money from them will not give that impression.

I totally understand that we could all find ourselves in a tight spot and in need of help, but I would not encourage any man to go there unless he has no other alternative.

If you are in a bind and considering to seek help from a certain lady friend, don’t! Making yourself look vulnerable in front of a woman is not the way to score points with her.

Regardless of whether your girlfriend is rolling in dough and throwing a few thousands your way will not hurt her bank account, I find it in bad taste for a man to borrow money from his girlfriend and actually any member of the opposite sex for that matter.

I have no problem with men who borrow money from women.

What irks me is the ease with which this is done. Borrowing money from women has become a norm. What is happening to the male pride? Previously, asking help from a woman had a certain emasculating effect on men.

It was a bruise on the infamous male ego when a man had to stoop that low.

Nowadays, such a man is an endangered species. Much to the disgust of many women, quite a number of men will pocket a woman’s cash and not feel bothered even in the slightest.

Some boyfriends have made the ladies in their lives the go-to people when they hit a financial snag. Some of these men even have the nerve to brag about how their women ‘sort them out’ when times are tough.

I miss the good old days when a man’s identity was tied to his ability to provide for his women. Men had no choice but to step up to the plate. It was unthinkable for a man to even consider a woman’s help.

Even when the woman noticed that the man was struggling a bit and offered to help, he would tell her to mind her own business. He is a man. He got it! Where is that attitude?

If you find yourself in a financial jam and you have to ask your girlfriend to bail you out, at least act like it was a very hard decision for you to go to her for help. Act a little embarrassed even.

Promise to pay her back with interest and definitely keep your word. So, are men allowed to borrow money? Yes, from a bank! Guys, it is time to put your manhood in check!

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