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All couples argue from time to time, and our experts agree that a bit of conflict is healthy."Couples who never row often have very stale relationships. If you have a dynamic relationship, you are bound to argue sometimes, but it’s how you resolve it that’s key," says Christine.Without some conflict, a relationship can fail to move forward and you can end up avoiding discussing the issues that matter most to you.
Talk about it
If you are rowing on a regular basis, however, you need to think about the reasons behind this. Try talking to each other calmly, being as open and honest as possible. Going to a neutral place, such as a restaurant or café, can be a good way to discuss problems without getting into a fight."If there’s a lot of underlying anger in the relationship then you may need counselling," says Christine. "Often couples will bicker and it’s not necessarily the presenting issue that’s the problem."
When to call it quits
Knowing when to call it a day with your spouse is likely to be one of the toughest decisions you’ll ever have to make. Don’t give up too quickly – remember, it’s always better to try to mend something than it is to start again."Ask yourself: does this person enhance my life?" says Leila. "If the answer is yes, and you feel you can’t live without them, then there is something to work for. But if you’ve reached the point where you’re making each other’s lives a misery, then it’s time to let go."
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