Life is dynamic and, in the journey of bettering ourselves, we need to watch out for toxicity. You have probably heard the quote by Tim Ferriss, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Just imagine having the same toxic traits as the five toxic people you spend the most time with.
Since birds of a feather flock together, you need to subtract yourself from a flock that is bringing you down in life. Some people who do this don’t even realise the negative impact that they are making in your life. For you to make your elimination, you first need to recognise them, so below are five different people you need to avoid.
The word ‘tea ‘is a popular phrase in most conversations today. ‘Tea’ is not only a hot beverage but its also ‘gossip’ that’s spilt over a conversation. The hotter the spilt tea is, the better the gossip. Many of us sip ‘tea’ as a guilty pleasure because, in all honesty, other people’s life encounters can be entertaining.
It’s okay to spill and sip some tea once in a while, but if you hang out with someone who only wants to gossip with you, you need to give them the side-eye. Just imagine what they’re telling other people about you if they always have so much to say about other people’s lives.
You’ve probably heard people say, “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”, a quote by Charles Caleb Colton. A person who does this copies your hairstyles, nail colour and even the type of partner you are in a relationship with. They can even go as far as saying that your life is perfect and they want to be just like you.
You should be very afraid of this type of person because they are coming for your throne. Spending a lot of time with them is a chance for them to observe you and pry into your life to plan their next move. Keep your distance, and then eventually cut them off.
Just imagine how annoying it must be to hang out with a person who thinks that the world revolves around them. It’s honestly tiring. A self-absorbed person is all about “ME” and not “WE”. You’ll never get to go to the places you like or do the things you want because they are not considerate of your feelings.
When you hang around a self-centred person, you start to feel alone and isolated. To them, you’re just a person to have around and used as a tool to build their self-esteem. Stay away from this type of person because they will bring you down.
We all have needs, and when we can’t fulfil those needs, we normally ask for help. It’s a nice thing to have a reliable friend that can help you out in times if struggle. However, some people make this a habit by constantly asking for something after another.
They may start off with small favours here and there, favours that you easily honour because they aren’t a big deal to you. Once they see how you easily help them out with small things, they move onto bigger things like clothes, money or even your car. Be kind but don’t be naïve. If your kind gestures are not reciprocated, zip your pockets and move on.
Having genuine people around you to put you in check when you’re on the wrong is really important because no one is always right. On the flip side, there are people who will look down on others for the mistakes they make.
If you feel trapped and limited in how you express yourself, you are better off without the people that make you feel this way.