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The mother of one has revealed her Tinder dating disasters (Image: Essex Live/BPM MEDIA)

A mum has told of her Tinder dating disasters - from a lying scoundrel who was secretly engaged to a 'broke' date who had to ask his dad to pay for their meal.

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Emma Louise Sanders, 30, has considered writing a book about all of the dates that have gone off the rails, some before they even started.

She regularly used the dating app for two years before finding her Mr Right, swiping right hundreds of times and left probably many more times than she could count, Essex Live reports.

Emma, from Rainham, Essex, has lifted the lid on some of the truly awful dates she went on in a bid to give young women an insight into the world of online dating.

Here are some of her horror stories.

The twin who bragged about his finances but couldn't pay for the meal

As fancy as cocktails and dinner in the London Sky Garden restaurant sounds, this date ended in disaster.

Emma's date was a twin, but she had no idea which one to expect.

"His pictures were always with the twin so I had no idea who was who," she said.

“One was slightly less good-looking and a bit heavy set, and that is the one who showed up to meet me."

After bragging about his finances and showing off his brand new Apple watch, Emma says he took a phone call from his dad at the table, leaving her alone to admire the London skyline.

About £100 later, after her date insisted on buying cocktails, they decided to call it a night and get the bill.

"It was a really expensive dinner," she said.

"I really didn't want to even pay my share as he ordered me drinks even though I said I didn't want them and then drank them himself."

Emma discovered one man was engaged when she checked his Facebook page (Photo: Essex Live/BPM MEDIA)

But the date was far from over for Emma.

When attempting to pay using his credit card, it was declined three times.

He then went on to explain how he had a £2,000 limit and even showed Emma his banking app, which is when she noticed he had in fact spent £1,925 of that limit.

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As if that wasn't embarrassing enough, he then left the restaurant to withdraw cash from an ATM outside, leaving Emma waiting for an hour at the table.

"I had to stay there with my bank card behind the counter - which only had about £7.50 on it because he had already insisted I wouldn't need any money - while he phoned his dad to transfer him some money."

When the bill was eventually settled, the pair parted ways.

But this was not the last time they met.

During their date, Emma had taken a photo of their meal and tagged him in a Facebook post - only for his long-term girlfriend to see it and message her the following morning.

"The guy was a compulsive liar," Emma said.

Emma then arranged to meet the man again, this time at a local restaurant where she knew the staff.

"When I questioned him he hung his head low and didn't say much." she said.

Emma paid for her meal and made him pay for his, after telling him to leave.

Another had a family that he kept secret (Photo: Shutterstock.com)

The engaged man who got caught out by Facebook

After two weeks of chatting on Tinder, Emma arranged a date and exchanged phone numbers with one man.

But a simple Facebook search of his mobile number revealed he wasn't being all that truthful to her.

"His profile picture was of him clearly with a significant other and his cover photo was an engagement ring on her hand," Emma said.

"I immediately screenshotted our conversations where he said his relationship status was 'complicated' as well as complimenting me on my looks and arranging a date and sent the message to his fianceé, two of his male friends and two of her female friends."

When Emma confronted the man about his fianceé, he blocked her number and Tinder account before deleting the app altogether.

But that wasn't the last Emma would hear from him.

One month on, one of the female friends Emma had previously contacted got back in touch.

"She thanked me for the information," Emma said. "Apparently he had been cheating on her for a while and she had her suspicions and when confronted with what I had sent he admitted it.

“She accepted it and they were still planning to be married."

The man who stood her up the day before her birthday

Emma arranged to meet up with one man at Blackfriars Tube station after work one evening.

But the man was a no show and to make matters worse, it was just a day before her birthday.

"He WhatsApped me to say he was on his way," she said.

"I got there five minutes early and after 15 minutes I WhatsApped him to say I was going outside to smoke.

"I phoned my friend for advice who said he was probably stuck in the cab in traffic.

“When I went inside, I had a funny feeling so I checked the last message I had sent - it had that dreaded one tick [meaning it had not been read].

"I looked on his Tinder and as I was reading messages it disappeared. I tried phoning him but it went straight to voicemail.

"I have no idea what happened there, whether he had no intention of meeting me, or saw me then left."

Emma hit it off with an old friend, Danny, after deleting the app (Image: Essex Live/BPM MEDIA)

"My perfect man was right in front of me all along"

Emma has now been Tinder-free for three-and-a-half years.

In 2016, after deleting the app, she met up with an old friend called Danny and they hit it off.

"We met at school in GCSE music," she said.

“We both fancied each other but he was in the 'popular group' and I was bullied a lot for not following the crowd so nothing really happened.

"We did flirt a bit but I thought he was being nice. He told me a picture on Instagram was hot with all the emojis and I replied 'aww thanks mate' then I found out he was planning on going travelling and decided to make my move."

On their first night together, the pair ordered Chinese and watched the England football match. For Emma, “it just felt right".

They only had five short months together before Danny jetted off to Thailand on his travels.

Less than a week into his trip, Emma flew out to celebrate his birthday, Christmas and New Year.

On their return to the UK, Danny moved into Emma’s family home before they moved back down under.

Emma and Danny lived together in Australia for a few months but when Emma found out she was pregnant with her first child they moved back to the UK for good.

In August 2018, Emma and Danny's son, Callum, was born (Image: Essex Live/BPM MEDIA)

In August 2018, their son, Callum, was born and the family-of-three now live together in a privately-rented house in Rainham.

"Having gone through all the bad dates makes both my boys worthwhile," Emma said.

"Everyone kept telling me that and I was so eager to meet someone and settle down by a certain age.

"I’ve ended up the happiest I’ve even been with someone who was a friend for years and listened to my heartache.

"Three-and-a-half years, several countries lived in and one child later we’re incredibly happy. My perfect man was right in front of me all along, I just couldn’t see it."

Emma's dating advice

Emma spent two years on Tinder and has some advice for young women who are currently on the app.

She said: "If he doesn’t call or message back then leave him be and move on.

"Trust your gut. If he’s been to prison and doesn’t have a full time job or act his age and it doesn't feel right then don’t give him the benefit of the doubt.

"Don’t get stressed about not getting matches or only getting fools messaging you. The right person will be there when you least expect it."

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