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Woman reproached for sharing her 'key' to a happy marriage in gushing tribute

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It was advice nobody asked for, but one woman doled it out all the same.

While the majority of us prefer to get our heads down and just plough on with whatever romance we can find in this bleak life, Holly Simon took to Facebook to share her marriage wisdom.

Unfortunately, many people found this wisdom to be rather flawed.

Holly details all the picking up she has to do after her husband. But her post isn't a rant, no.

Instead, Holly insists her husband's mess and aversion to cleaning up after himself is a blessing.

She writes: "Every day I pick up the towel he hangs on our curtain rod & throw it on a hook in the bathroom, put his hair gel back in the bathroom drawer that was 3 inches from where he placed it, close literally every. dresser. drawer, and pick up at least two pairs of his shoes somewhere in the house. Religious like."

"As a younger wife (especially in the baby & toddler zone) this often made me irritated. 'Don’t I have enough to clean up daily after the kids!' Years ago I actually felt bitterness about it."

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And here comes the twist.

"But these little things represent his presence in our home. What if they weren't there each day?

"What else would be missing from our lives? His laugh, his comfort, his guidance? How many women and children are living that harsh sadness out?"

"The scattered trail of his daily routine means I have a husband who keeps coming home. I’m not doing life on my own. I'm not raising my girls by myself.

"And that is a cause for gratitude, not irritation...if you’re in that mode sister, take a breath, this is a common attitude trap for us. And you're most likely tired. But remember - it's not 'your burden', it's your gift.

A lot of women did not share Holly's worldview.

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"My husband is a grown up and knows where to hang a towel," one wrote.

"I think her husband is immature and completely disrespectful. She is not his mother but his wife. He needs to grow up and be her partner in the home. She needs to stop making excuses for him."

Another woman added: "Y'all really think it's rude to tell your man to pick up after himself? Respect yourselves. Stop taking care of grown manbabies."

Perhaps one of the most simple and effective responses read: "I feel like 'coming home' is a really low expectation of a husband and father."

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