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What men go for when choosing a spouse

My Man
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Folks — and this you can take to the bank — money is what attracts women to men. And men always go for beauty in women, period. The rest is noise! However, human beings are big liars. When you ask them what they look for in a mate, they always give a very long list of desirable character and personality traits. Same way male peacocks show off by spreading their colourful feathers to attract females, men splash money at beautiful women. And it works.

Gone are the days when men used to charm women with the depth of their knowledge, intellect, honey coated lyrics, talents, great sense of humour and whatnot. Today, my friend, if you want to easily woo a woman, better have a fat wallet. Nowadays, if you are a beautiful woman or a rich man, your spouse doesn’t care that you are a night runner, witchdoctor, thief, rapist or bandit. You could be catastrophically ugly, but if you are rich, women will still find you ‘hot’.

The simple reason is that society judges women on basis of beauty, and men by how much money they have. Generally, women have better looks and men have more money. Differently put, in fact, succinctly, women are ‘poor’ and men ‘ugly’! Painful, but very true.

 

Little wonder then, that, women spend more time trying to look good, and men on the other hand making more money. I mean, when was the last time you saw men participating in a beauty contest? Instead, they always toil, burn midnight oil and dream of featuring on World Richest Men list.

But men, cunning as they are, have turned tables and made society to believe there is no such thing as an ugly man; only rich or poor. Look, if men were to put a high premium on wealth (like women do) when searching for a partner, they would find none.

Same with women if they were to care so much about looks in their search for soul mates. To see a man stalk a woman because she is rich (and ugly?) is as strange and rare as a woman panting after a poor man because he is ‘cute’. I swear, nothing fires up a woman’s loins than a man’s fat wallet. 

Ever wondered why men are seemingly offended by the idea of female bosses, women earning more than them etc? Well, they feel threatened because their only lethal weapon — money — in the competitive game that’s dating or battle of the sexes has been acquired by the opponents. 

Men go out of their way to win over beautiful women. In the process, at times, hopes are dashed, egos bruised and hearts broken. But that never stops them. And boy, oh boy! Don’t men just like punching above their weight. I have been told tens of tales by ‘corporate women’ who’ve been hit on by watchmen, touts, mjengo men and their ilk. Also, stories abound of ‘hustlers’ who posture, take loans to impress women or host them at their rich friend’s homes.

Nowadays, given to chose between a rich husband and a well-paying job, most Kenyan women will pick the former. High occupational status my foot! Clearly, as a man to be ‘ugly’ and ‘poor’ is a big scandal. No sane woman will give you a second look. And I can’t blame them; it’s their nature. However, this dangerous trend has its consequences. Our divorce courts are now littered with cases involving rich men with their beautiful estranged wives.  Flip over to page 6 for more on this juicy topic.

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