My hubby is addicted to heroine and i have to finance his addiction

My hubby is a heroin addict

My husband is addicted to heroin and bhang. I have known this for two years, but he has been using them for much longer. We have three children and I have always hoped to bring them up in a proper family setting. We have tried many things including rehab, counselling but he is still addicted. I love him and I believe in marriage, but this whole thing is pulling me down. Rehab is so expensive and since he cannot keep a job, I have to finance his addiction. 

{Nelious}

Your take

There are some situations in life,  which are so depressing; you need God’s intervention. These problems are beyond human control and only He can offer a lasting solution. Share with your close church friends and pastor so that you can pray together.

(Ouma Ragumo_Sifuyo)

You need a smart strategy. Talk to your doctor and draw a game plan. Let the doctor talk to your husband and tell him that what he is smoking could have affected the health of the baby, and so he needs to stop immediately. Let the doctor explain to your husband that his habit may also affect your future babies. You may also involve a trusted pastor or a counsellor. Best of luck.

(Felix-Oyugisnet)

It seems like you are the one to blame for this because you are financing your husband’s addiction and that is why he cannot stop. Stop giving him money because he will use it to buy heroin and bhang.

 (Ben Maro)

This is a serious issue. You need to involve a counsellor and a pastor. You must also stop giving him money because it is worsening the problem.

(Wilberforce Atsiaya)

You are to blame for everything because you are the one financing this deadly habit. It is better to pay for his rehab sessions as opposed to buying him drugs. Your husband also needs prayers and intense counselling.

(Onyango Outha Jauduny)

Marriage has its challenges and what you are facing is one of them. Do not be discouraged. Talk to your pastor to help you convince him to go to a rehab centre.

(Tasma Charles)

It is unfortunate your husband is addicted to illegal drugs like heroin and bhang. However, the fact that you have taken various initiatives; shows your commitment to help him out. Pray for him and continue paying for his rehab. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

(Zachary Githaiga)

Counsellor’s take

Nelious, you may be riding a dead horse believing that someday, it will come back to life again.  When a person becomes an addict, the battle to break free from this habit cannot be fought by their spouse, friend, parent or siblings. The battle must begin from within. No amount of rehab or counselling can break an addiction if the user does not want to break free from it.

You may take him to the rehab and pay for it but as long as the initiative is not his, the project is doomed to fail.

You need to take a proactive move and that is leaving him. Financing his addiction is only digging further into the hole.

By the way, you may be part of the problem if you are the one buying  him these drugs whenever he needs a fix. Finally, get your children away from this man. It is better to raise children alone than with an addict father. 

{Taurus}