Men only: Men ought to chest thump ‘bila fear’

It was almost exactly six years ago and I was in the pretty little town of Italia called Venezia. A very close relative of mine called me from Kenya to ask me how I was liking the city on water, with its multiple canals and pretty little bridges. Just before I could tell him I would send him a postcard, he began coughing so hard on the phone, it was like his chest was about to burst.