How to date a stranger with the purpose of initiating a romantic or sexual relationship

By Nancy Roxanne | 8yrs ago | 3 min read

Do you largely go out with people within your social circle, for instance, acquaintances or friends of friends? Or you have only dated people whom you went to high school or college with? Generally, there is nothing wrong with dating people in your social circle if the feeling is mutual. Nearly all of the people who are currently in relationships met their partners within their clique. Either that, or they went to school together or something along those lines.

Your social circle is possibly the best asset you have for meeting new people. Ask any person how they met their significant other and they will tell you that they met through friends. Your social circle gives you access to other people whom you may not have met otherwise.

Most single people enlist the help of friends by asking them to set up ‘introductions’ for them with unattached people they know. Getting introduced through a friend is wonderful. One advantage of meeting a potential mate this way is that you are pretty much guaranteed of their availability. There is nothing as mortifying as declaring your love to someone who is in a relationship.

On the flipside, you will have limited access to potential lovers. I mean, how many single people can your friend introduce you to? Not that many. In addition to that, your immediate social or professional circle is not the most ideal place to practice your ‘game.’ If things go sour, you will have a very ugly situation in your hands because chances are you are still going to be running into your ex more often than you would like, not to mention the awkward position you will put your mutual friend in.

That said, let me interest you in the most prudent way, in my opinion, to meet a partner; the cold approach. A cold approach is where you reach out to a stranger with the purpose of initiating a romantic or sexual relationship. You make a move on a complete and total stranger without having the ‘friend-of-a-friend’ upper hand to get you started.

Approaching a prospective lover at random can be intimidating. A lot of people are wary of strangers, so there is a possibility of getting dismissed even before you let your intentions known. If you are fortunate to get them to listen, you will still go through a lot of awkward and misfired cold approaches before you finally master the art.

If you have ever been rejected, you know that it can cut to the very core of your ego and self-esteem. A cold approach requires balls and audacity. It means you have to master the skill of building a rapport with a stranger in a split second while generating physical attraction and finding common ground.

In order to cold approach successfully and effectively, you need to be confident and present the best version of yourself within the first five minutes. Don’t act desperate or creepy. Maybe offer a compliment, you leave her with your number. Just that. You should also filter your approaches to girls who are likely to be available. Ideally, you should make them want you first by subtle flirting. If she responds positively, then you are in the clear.

If it works out, you will hopefully end up with a great life partner and a captivating story about how you met instead of the tired, used line of ‘we met through a friend.’

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