My wife's male colleagues give me sleepless nights

My wife works with a non-governmental organisation and the nature of her work requires extensive travel to various parts of the country. Most times, she leaves on Monday morning only to return on Thursday or Friday.

Most of her colleagues are men and whenever I talk to her in the evenings, I hear people drinking and partying around her. I love and trust her but every time she leaves I cannot help but worry about what she is doing out there.

Principally, it is not her I don’t trust but the people she travels with. I am often so jealous of any other man taking advantage of her in those remote places and especially under the influence of alcohol. I have even contemplated asking her to quit but she makes a lot more money.

How can I deal with these fears? I also feel that she is not there for our children as much as a mother should be.

 

Please advice

{Franklin}

Does she drink and go out when she is at home? Could she be looking for something you don’t give  her like the happiness of going out and being treated well? You may also need to know the people she travels with and their characters. If they appear to be suspicious, share your fears with her and ask for her advice. She may surprise you with her response. Also, check to see if you still connect with her like you did earlier on. If not, she may indeed be having affairs out there.
{Eunice Mbugua}

Franklin, this is indeed a big dilemma you are in. However, you need to have some more faith in her and assume that nothing is happening while they are away on their working trips. Having many thoughts about this will make you suffer in silence and can really hurt you.
{Amos Shabbir}

You have all the reasons to doubt her. Open your eyes wide as the writing is on the wall. If you  trust her, then do not doubt or suspect her of cheating. Remember you have the option of having her quit then living without the money she brings home.
{Ouma Ragumo – Sifuyo}

Did you discuss the nature of her job before she took it? If she had the job even before you met her, you should have taken time to understand its nature. Don’t bring this issue up now as it is already too late.
{Joab Ngereso}

I see absolutely no problem here. It is very simple, share your fears with her and she will give you her side of the story.
{Jacob Otieno}

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