Ladies, sometimes you are the ones who complicate your lives
When a man pursues you but you are not interested, some of you do fishy stunts
Ladies, sometimes you are the ones who complicate your lives. When a man pursues you but you are not interested, some of you do fishy stunts.
1. Some of you keep asking money from the man hoping that will deter him. A man who is serious about pursuing you will not be deterred by this, he will keep giving you the money, some even go into debts just to please you thinking that you are serious and you need him. This is wrong and deceitful. Stop using the man.
2. Some of you get into a relationship with a man just to pass time knowing very well you are not serious about him. You even get to have sex with him, or entertain him in your chats, or use him to run your errands then when you are done you drop him and expect him to be fine yet you led him on.
3. Some of you pretend you have a man to keep off the man pursuing you. You lie that you have a man or that you are married, you even go to the extent of wearing a fake marriage ring and change your relationship status to "in a relationship" or "married" to keep off one man or a few men you don't like then you are the same person who complains that you are still single. Even if your future spouse was to spot you, he will not make a move thinking you are taken. By lying to the men you don't want, you end up chasing away the man you would want.
4. Some of you when the man you are not interested in pursues you, instead of giving him an answer you keep him hanging, entertaining him, pulling his leg because you love his attention. This is not fair, giving him false hopes.
Uncomplicate your life, stop trying tricks. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Teach yourself how to say a firm NO.
In fact, both men and women, learn to be direct. When someone you are not interested in makes a move on you, tell them straight up "NO! I am single, but you and I cannot be". Release them early so that they focus their energy in finding someone who will be interested in them.
Grown ups can handle rejection, what wrongs them is someone who plays mind games. Be straight forward.
In my new book MANHOOD SERIES, I help men to understand their past pain of rejection. A lot of the mess men do to others is due to unresolved rejection issues of the past. Hurt people hurt people. I also remind men to be honest in relationships.
In my other new book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I address women about rejection. This is one area many women struggle with and end up suicidal, angry, confused or with a low self-esteem. I also remind women about their relationship choices.
© Dayan Masinde
To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer
To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.
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