Have the talk with your boys— no one else will

I come from a generation that just missed out on the traditional way of life, the one birthed by parents with PTSD from the struggle for independence. A generation that struggled to understand a new religion that its parents did not quite understand. A generation, quite simply put, trapped in the matrix.

We missed out big on initiation ceremonies, where adulthood was explained, when clan secrets were passed on, where sex education was taught, uncensored. When the new religions penetrated Africa, it all went south. Sex and sex education became taboo topics, and sexually explicit words previously ‘carelessly’ used became cuss words.