Why is he never in the mood?

Psychologist Chris Hart gives his take on how to handle your partner constantly saying no to making love [Courtesy]

Hi Chris,

Lately, my husband has started saying no when I want to make love. And it is upsetting me! I know that is not rational, because after all, I expect him to understand when I am not in the mood. But somehow it seems different the other way round. I am sure that he is not having an affair or anything like that, but I still cannot stop myself from thinking things like he does not find me attractive anymore! So why is it much more devastating when he refuses me than when I refuse him?