Little love habits

The beauty of love is in sharing of life with deliberate intentions of enjoying it, writes ANTHONY KAGIRI

Earlier in the week, I celebrated my wedding anniversary and it was refreshing looking back and seeing how far we had come.

As I reflected back, the little things we do for each other and how they have become a part of our marriage culture stood out. They define us and inspire our love.

The beauty of love is not on the rules and responsibilities for each other, but on the sharing of a life with deliberate intentions of enjoying it. The journey is made sweeter by the little and at times silly things we do for each other. Some of them we deliberately decide to adopt or do them by default.

Bonding

Although the little love habits may appear insignificant they have meaning attached to them. There are those habits that bringing us closer and refresh our unity, while others inspire the fun in love.

We can transform some household chores into little love habits and use them to spice up our marriages. This happens when we stop looking at the chores as responsibilities. Think about cooking together, learning a new recipe or tending the kitchen garden together.

The key is not to see these as tasks but rather as time spent together. Through these simple chores, we learn to collaborate and slowly the culture of partnership is grown in our union. I know this couple, which spends Sunday afternoon ironing their clothes for the coming week. This chore has become a special bonding time for them.

Doing things together enhances your partnership. Consider the fun in showering together or eating from the same plate. These may look awkward but their influence on spicing love is phenomenon. Sharing a meal with our spouses offers an opportunity to bond. A friend of mine tells me the wife never serves dinner until he is home. This has challenged my friend to be home early.

Little love habits inspire unity in a marriage. Try spicing up dinner time with some family devotion. The focus on God as a family is another way of boosting your unity.

Consider taking children to bed together and reading for them a bible verse or a story before praying for them. This is a simple act that takes little of our time yet it is one way of cultivating unity in parenting. Making leisure time loving time offers another opportunity to grow your love. We can adopt some little love habits that help us use our free time to grow our love. Instead of spending the entire weekend holding onto the TV remote or sleeping, get out and have some fun.

Unique acts

How about taking an evening walk, going for swimming, playing a game of chess or cards or doing a bible trivia. When we make leisure time loving time, we certainly make our free time worth. We are often re-energised for a new week or a new task.

There is another category of little love habits that look silly and out of the marriage league, but they are awesome love boosters. Think in the lines of tickling each other, cutting each other’s nails, cleaning each other’s faces, taking a stroll across a park like arboretum, snuggling on the seat or even feeding each other.

The trick about the little love habits is that they are learnt and adopted gradually. Don’t expect to adopt them instantly. It is more enjoyable when they are adopted naturally and not faked. Every couple needs to adopt some little love habits to spice up their love.