Marriage is totally overrated, overhyped

This a question that will definitely sound weird, even borderline controversial, coming from a married woman, one with no intention of being unmarried. If I was one of the famous, it would most likely get me trending, but there is safety in being less known.

In a nutshell, yes, the institution of marriage is overhyped, especially that piece of paper that has been given so much power over us. A paper you often need when receiving government services. A piece of paper some people use as affirmation.

A piece of paper is used to bind people to stick in unhappy unions because for some reason, it is easier to walk out of a relationship that has not been declared on a certificate. A piece of paper is used by some people to demand respect.

Strange how, as the world evolves technologically alongside everything else, the institution of marriage is expected to remain archaic. As we celebrate being able to communicate with the world below from atop a high mountain, there are people moaning that the institution of marriage is no longer as it was.

They want the rules of marriage to remain the same, as when people were still being guillotined in public places. When we were hunters and, or gatherers. I would like to claim that the male fraternity is the one resisting the changes, but there are womenfolk as well, and I could make peace with it if these women argued for it because they are happy, but it unfortunately, it is from a point of brainwashing. Although I cannot solely blame the men, I can confidently blame the patriarchy.

It was, and still is, a patriarchal society, one that sees to it that the rules of marriage, especially the Western idea of it, are designed to favour men. Back then, men seemingly headed the household, but it was deeper than that.

The roles were assigned, before anything else, by the genetic makeup of the sexes. We were hunters and gatherers - the men did the hunting and the gathering because they are biologically stronger and physically faster.

That the man did not, and still does not, carry pregnancies, or breastfeed the children, also meant that he could afford to go out there and risk being mauled by a lion while toiling. Women could not. The men were the providers of food and security, but that did not make women less important. They were the sex that provided emotional support and took care of the family. They cooked for the men and cleaned after them because it would be grossly unfair to expect someone who has been competing for food with lions and hyenas, to come home and start worrying about what to cook. Women were not servants, they were partners who took care of a different department.

Men did not demand for services to be provided, the women did so, happily because they earned it. Now, you have jobless men who sit at home all day, wait for their wives to come from work, and cook and clean for them, just because they are men. The husband.

Reconsider the reason for marriage

Marriage is totally overrated when you consider such things. We have some women working as many hours as their husbands, but after work, the husband will sit down, and watch TV as the equally exhausted wife prepares food for the family.

People need to reconsider why they get married. It should be for companionship and partnership. Marrying should not be a way to elevate anyone in society. It should not be a way to gain respect. It must not be for the sake of keeping a legal slave.

And do not take that piece of paper certificate too seriously. It is where the problem starts because it can make you feel bound.

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