Dude’s Den: Four reasons why single women prefer dating married men

 A married man has mastered the map of a woman’s body.

Women tend to be more attracted to married men than single guys. The reasons for this vary, from the outrageous and weird, to the illogical and silly. Here are some of the reasons women would do anything to bag a married man:

Responsibility

Marriage comes with responsibilities. The man has mouths to feed and bills to pay. He has decisions to make and many more other responsibilities. As such, a married man is socialized to be responsible. He will not show up at her doorstep with only condoms but will be thoughtful enough to get her some grocery, maybe milk, some sugar and bread for tea as he settles in.

Sexual healing

A married man has mastered the map of a woman’s body. He knows every contour and how to navigate the pleasurable spots. Seduction is his second nature and he can make even the ugliest woman feel like she deserves the Miss Universe crown. And when it comes to ‘bedminton,’ a married man knows when to play and foreplay, go slow, thrust, rev things up or ‘idle.’

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Besides, nothing beats the thrill of something illicit! The very fact that bedding a married man is frowned upon could trigger women’s hormones into a raging rush like a waterfall.

Unlike the single guy who invitees a woman his place, makes her cook look wifely and expect her to perform judo in bed; the married man will give her that unexpected call, probably ask her to drop by at his office and then proceed to do it with her in his office or the car! Sparks! Spontaneity does magic when it comes to sex.

Competition

Women are weird and cunning. They would date a married man just to prove to the other woman that, “They can take him.” The fact that a man who has another woman pursues her is exciting and makes her feel like a winner in a non-existent battle because the wife probably does not even know she exists.

 Men often fuel this superiority complex by lying to these women about their wives. He will say statements like, “That one cannot cook, she is ugly and I only married her because my parents forced me, you are better in bed…”

No strings attached

While ‘no strings attached’ relations are becoming more common, there is nothing like. There will always be strings and they will always be attached if sex is involved.

Women like dating married men as they do not have to see them every day hence, do not get to dictate how they live their lives. Technically, they have plenty of time to hang out with their girls and generally do their stuff with minimal interference, unlike the wife who will have to ask for permission before she can visit her mother.

In addition, she will be free of the single guy who will be calling every now and then with silly questions like, “Baby uko wapi? Unado? Mko na nani?”

This is not about whether it is morally wrong or right for a woman to date a married man. We have people with very good stepmothers who dated their married fathers, and we have others whose families were ruined by the other woman. It all depends on individuals and their intentions. At the end of the day, God gave us the gift of choice. Choose your path wisely.