Divorce is an act of courage or cowardice; think twice before quitting

Think twice before you walk away! [iStockphoto]

Erica Jong is one of my favourite writers and her book "Fear of fifty" has a chapter titled "Divorce and after" in which she says that "divorce is my generation's coming of age ceremony - a ritual scarring that makes everything that happens afterwards seem bearable.

We marry but by the time we are 30, 40 or 50, we are different people. Our values have shifted. We now want different lives but with different loves." We as Africans would like to dismiss this as "Western values", but the truth is that we are not much different. Perhaps they are just more honest with themselves than we are.