Children born out of wedlock will show up

Last weekend, I was in the company of some ladies who put me on the spot for failing to write about children born out of wedlock. Most of you will recall that a few weeks ago, Justice Jesse Njagi, in a landmark ruling, decreed then men must now do their fair share of parental responsibility and not leave it solely to the woman. He also ruled that men cannot run away from parental responsibility because they have no job, and that they will now be expected to take full responsibility for their seeds including those born outside the ‘hallowed’ grounds of marriage. I told the ladies that in my view, the judge was doing what should have been done ages ago- for we all know that when it comes to baby daddies, men especially in this part of the world take the cup for bad behaviour.

Let us start off with how baby daddies come to happen. Usually, two people either in lust or in love have unprotected carnal relations over varying periods of time. It is natural to assume that any two persons who are willing to go completely untethered to the love battlefield are also perfectly okay with the consequences which could range from a sexually transmitted ailment to a sexually transmitted organism (otherwise known as a baby). It is also safe to assume that both persons are perfectly comfortable with taking responsibility for dealing with the fruits of their actions for example seeking treatment for their ailments or raising their offspring. This is when things get hairy for grown men who suddenly become bumbling idiots who spurt out silly questions like” How did it happen?’ “Are you sure it was me?” It still baffles that men continue to deploy this line of defence which is so lame and infuriating.