He hid his job loss from me, can I trust him?

By Nyambura Maina

My husband lost his job and never told me. For the last five months we have been leaving together for work as usual. He then comes home and spends the rest of the day at home being a couch potato. I never noticed that anything was wrong because he was behaving as normal. The car always had petrol and he would dutifully drop and pick me from work every morning. I only found out because I found the sitting room very untidy recently and I scolded our househelp. She explained to me that she could not clean because ‘mzee’ was using the room the whole day and out of respect she could not ask him to move. I feel so angry that he kept this a secret for that long. We have been married for four years now. How do I trust him anymore if he can hide such important things from me?