Society has no respect for men who are ‘sat on’ by their wives.
Signs of mwanaume kukaliwa include, among others, the man reporting home at the same time as the neighbour’s chicken.
Kukaliwa by your wife may have different means. But these are the simplest indicators
Carrying handbags, taking and waiting for her atoke saloon.Tabling your entire salary for her to gawa.
Coming home early, accounting to her every second (and friends) 24/7
Being forced to post mushy love messages and picture on social media.
Taking her everywhere including grocery store, changing diapers, doing household chores
Being sent to buy sanitary pads, washing her ngothas
Funding and hosting her relatives while yours wamebaki kwa mataa
Building or buying a house where she wants.
Being beaten , sleeping on sofa ama nje kama lorry.